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Rev. Danno
Sep 1st, 2003, 06:28 AM
Hey Everyone, make up random quotes, & answers to problems I am totally not having right now...
hehe, wow... I sure am wacky...
I'm just going to delete everything else I posted...

Royal Tenenbaum
Sep 1st, 2003, 11:08 AM
First of all, do whatever it takes to date this woman! You have great sex with her and you and her a lot in common. If you were going out more then at least you could talk then. So, my second suggestion is, get together with her in public more, like dinner or a walk, or whatever you enjoy. That way at least you'll have an hour or 2 of conversation before the sex aspect kicks in.

Perndog
Sep 1st, 2003, 12:01 PM
If you can't keep a relationship together involving both sex and stimulating conversation, keep the sex and find someone else to talk to (hire a hooker and have a chat ;) ). Gotta keep priorities in line here.[/code]

Big Papa Goat
Sep 1st, 2003, 02:22 PM
Am I stupid to complain?
Yes, and I'll show you why, with your own words.

We play cards, drink, watch movies, talk about comics and D&D.


But more, and more lately we've been having more sex.


hey, guilt free sex w/ a friend


what we have is a good thing, I like how you make me feel, let's not complicate things ...", and then more or less told me to take of my pants. Now it's gotten to the point we really do anything anymore, except for sex.


Any questions?

Mockery
Sep 1st, 2003, 03:48 PM
From my own personal experiences, I can say this with confidence... sex with good friends is pretty much always a bad idea. Sex always complicates things and can potentially fuck up a friendship forever.

Skulhedface
Sep 3rd, 2003, 01:30 AM
Danno...

Did you ALLOW the sex to take over the friendship? That might have been the fatal flaw. I've been in the situation myself, fortunately, although after it stops and the first little bit of time is awkward, I and the girl can resume the friendship where it was beforehand (except with the added benefit of remembering what she looks like nekkid).

Seriously? Hope for the best, but expect the worst. It could go one of several ways:

-The two of you "get it out of your system", so to speak, and end up back at Square One.

-Maybe out of the blue (it could happen... we will NEVER understand women, no matter how hard we try) she'll suddenly see something in you and agree to date you. But this is an extreme hit-or-miss situation... make sure you know what you're getting yourself into.

-It will suddenly become awkward and completely break up the friendship.

On second thought... maybe you fell in love through lust... i.e., because she was your friend before and now your friend plus booty, you're falling for her while she sees it as a simple release. Can't help you there, as that kind of situation is doomed from the start... but you can still HOPE, right?

The best advice I can give is for you to say "No, wait, before you start riding the bone tonight, I want to talk to you." Let us know how it goes.

Rev. Danno
Sep 5th, 2003, 02:32 AM
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Anonymous
Sep 5th, 2003, 06:26 AM
Well, it's the first one's own fault for saying she just wants to 'keep it this way.' I know I wouldn't feel bad about bopping about McDonaldland after that. It also works for you because she may get jealous enough when/if she finds out about Girl 2 that she'll decide to date you (Even if you don't want that, you'll have the added leverage of her desperation). And no matter what happens, Girl 2 won't leave.

It doesn't sound to me like you have a problem, just Girl 1 does.

However, I'd recommend that if you really enjoy the mind of Girl 2 to stick with her. Girl 1 probably thinks she's really smart and crafty in this situation, when she's actually getting the short end of the Danno love-wand. :<

Skulhedface
Sep 5th, 2003, 06:26 PM
2 girls? That hate each other? Speaking from the testosterone, there's not much that can go wrong in that scenario! They might find out, they might start fighting over humping rights, which of course means humping competition.... Ya see where I'm going with this?

On the flip side, they could find out about each other, get pissed off at YOU for even thinking about diddling the other, and both drop you like a bad habit.

At the very least, hope for the middle ground, where they find out about each other, one of them bows out, making the decision FOR you.

Chojin's right about it being Girl #1's problem, but also, you can't completely avoid blame. After all, you DID give them both the lovin's. Girl #1 would have no reason to HAVE the problem had you not. That's the way I see it.

Advice on this subject's a bit hard to give. It's been a little time since I've been in the situation myself, and yea, being single for such a long time after being with someone for such a long time may be clouding my judgement.

So umm... Talk to one, bang the other. I'll be more helpful if something more comes up.

AChimp
Sep 5th, 2003, 11:13 PM
I'd stop having sex with girls you have no feelings for, but that's just me and probably why I'm still a virgin. :(

Skulhedface
Sep 5th, 2003, 11:33 PM
You're a good man, Chimp. I think I'll donate to get you a lapdance. ;)