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Professor Cool
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:02 PM
Note: This post is somewhat long so if your a halfwit please leave, and this is 100% serious, so you dipshits with your LOL emotioncons on hold can go into the payne threads.

Lately I have been doing double shifts at the videostore, both late night and morning shift. Whenever i use to leave work, this stunning woman would always be coming in. Turned out she does the morning shift, and for the past two weeks, I have been working with her. It turns out she goes to the same art class as me, only a diffrent time, not to mention she is amazingly funny. We gotten to know each other very well while work and on Thursday actually asked her out. Work out perfectly since saturday was both our days off. Well to make it short, the date was perfect.

All in all, i told my friends about it and they keep telling me that relationships with co-workers never works out, and then they told me all their sob stories with co-workers. My friends acted dead serious when they told me it wouldn't work.

At this time, she is laying on my bed reading the newspaper.

-Fin

FS
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:25 PM
Fuck your friends. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Have all the fun you can.

Professor Cool
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:40 PM
The only reason why I am listening to them is that they were dead right about my ex.

ScruU2wice
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:42 PM
So what if it doesn't work out. if you stop now, it didn't work out cuz your friends said so. if it doesn't work out then you got friends who went through the same thing, other than that your absolutely set...

Rev. Danno
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:55 PM
Cool Beans Prof. Cool!
Co-workers(my experiance at least)are a bad Idea, But if she is a differant shift... No problem.
Just keep work out of your daily conversations, it sounds like you both have common intrests, that's good. I say go for it! Otherwise you'll always wonder, also it's bad when you spurn a co-worker...
I once broke up w/ a woman who I worked w/, & she tried to run me over w/ a forklift. I'm not saying dateing co-workers is bad, I just haven't had luck w/ it. Also you have to take into account I make really bad choices when it comes to women...
Also, I know sevral couples who met at work, & they all seem happy.
None of them worked in the same area, most of them have stories like yours...
One last thing... You know, -RoG- meet Doopa at work...

Professor Cool
Sep 21st, 2003, 02:56 PM
The friends thing is only a point. The matters of that if we break up the sheer awkwardness of having to work together afterwords is the problem. The other problem is if it does work out. I might have to leave my night shift and keep morning which has been somewhat a dream job and the only real peace in quiet i get. Plus, I do not have a mindclock in which wakes me up in time for work everyday, I am usually already up when i go, this happened in school all the time and I would have to stay up all night just so i didnt miss the bus, and end up sleeping all weekend...

The last point is that she is a very lovely woman, and she is a godess compared to the women i have dated in the past.

Danno,

1) I happen to be working with her now, and after I'm done doing doubleshifts I have to choose wich one I am sticking with. I normally do not have that choice nor would I want. Yet I think she be somewhat offended if i dont pick one with her.

2) Yes, i noticed that. But like Rog said, he is a ham. I more of a lukewarm sausage.

Cap'n Crunch
Sep 21st, 2003, 03:01 PM
It doesn't seem like a bad idea at all. Wouldn't it be better because you spend more time with eachother than a normal relationship?

Professor Cool
Sep 21st, 2003, 03:10 PM
That's part of the dillema, hence if i work with her in the morning, theres a chance if things not work out I have made my life hell.

If I keep things seperate, we will be at two diffrent times, night and day, our scheduals will be horrifcally messed up.

I dont know if I want her to work the lateshift with me, I worked hard to get my friend this job, and I can't get him to change shifts no matter what. I also can't get him fired because this is the only steady job he ever has.

I dunno, maybe I'm making a big deal about a small situation.

O71394658
Sep 21st, 2003, 03:13 PM
I would say go for it. If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out.

If it does end up not working out, talk to the boss to make sure you don't get the same shifts...or maybe one of you will quit. Or you could try to end the breakup on a friendly level so you could still manage to work together. :(

Jixby Phillips
Sep 21st, 2003, 09:38 PM
two of my coworkers have been dating and working together for almost a year now.

I thouhgt dating between coworkers only didn't work when it was in an office setting, or office sitcom?

Professor Cool
Sep 21st, 2003, 09:53 PM
I asked wha she wanted to do today and she say, lay around watch movies and have sex...

I think i love her...

The worst that can happen is that my friend finds my head in the return box with a copy of "Love Hurts" shoved in my mouth.

punkgrrrlie10
Sep 21st, 2003, 11:50 PM
dude, do what feels right. Don't think too much, that's what causes so many problems now rather than later and since it's early in the relationship just do what will make you happy now. I know lots of people who got married to someone whom they met on the job and they are perfectly happy. I even know some public defender - district attorney couples who are all good and they are always going against one another. Enjoy your life and whatever good things that come your way. Yes it might suck if you guys break up later but that's a bridge you cross later.

Jeanette X
Sep 22nd, 2003, 12:20 AM
Follow your heart. If you don't, you'll regret it the rest of your life.

Rev. Danno
Sep 22nd, 2003, 12:34 AM
Most of all "BE YOURSELF"...
hehehehe

Helm
Sep 22nd, 2003, 01:03 AM
Follow your heart. If you don't, you'll regret it the rest of your life.

NO! NO! What IS this stuff? Where am I? What am I doing here?! I haven't spoken to my mother in years and I HATE YOU.

Dole
Sep 22nd, 2003, 04:00 AM
"At this time, she is laying on my bed reading the newspaper. "

-get off the fucking internet for starters!! I always think its weird people posting about their relationships when their partners are in the same room.
Girl: What are you doing, hon?
Bloke: Nothing...just talking to lots of total strangers about you and every facet of our relationship.

And if you have a nice attractive female whom you are actually dating then stop worrying about, and just go and have fun! Yeesh!

FS
Sep 22nd, 2003, 05:10 AM
If you do have a less-than-perfect break-up and you still have to work together, yeah, things'll get ugly until either of you change jobs. That's a risk, but one I'd be willing to take.

You might still be in the lovey-dovey phase of your relationship too much, and it depends on what kind of person she is, but maybe you could discuss actually picking the night shift to avoid spending too much time together (people who think this isn't a bad thing have either never had a relationship or have just started one).

Though, when I think about it, that could probably easily be an invitation to a big fight. Not all of the womens like to look at their relationships in such a pragmatic way. Choose your words carefully.

UP_SHUT
Sep 22nd, 2003, 12:37 PM
It doesn't seem like a bad idea at all. Wouldn't it be better because you spend more time with eachother than a normal relationship?

NO NO NO NO BAD. Working the same job with different shifts is cool. Co-working is not.

This might seem like a great idea at first. I know from a similar experience. I dated my neighbor on the corner of my street, thinking that it would be a good thing because then we could see each other all the time and crap. Well, it turned out we started seeing each other too often. He'd come over and we'd hang out almost everyday. It was awesome at first, because I really liked him. Before you know it we got sick of each other and ended up breaking it off. It sucks because now everyday, whether I want to see his retarded assface or not I have to. Whenever I look out the window he's right there. Now, the situation wouldn't be as bad if he just would have been cool about it, but he's an immature little bastard, so that didn't help at all. I can't exactly compare this to co-working, though, because I can't just quit being his neighbor.

If you like this girl, then don't spend every living moment with her. Both of you need your space. If you're not an immature little bastard and think you could be friends if you ever broke up, then go for it.

Protoclown
Oct 6th, 2003, 12:10 AM
Dude, don't sweat it. You both work in a fucking video store, it's not like either one of you is going to make that a lasting career (and if you are, go ahead and get a gun and plenty of bullets now).

Anonymous
Oct 6th, 2003, 11:07 AM
How many bullets do you really need?

AChimp
Oct 6th, 2003, 02:00 PM
How many did Rambo have? :shocked

Anyways, I have found that friends give stupid advice and are nosey, so it's best to keep things from them. >:

glowbelly
Oct 6th, 2003, 02:40 PM
upshut? shutup.

the reason why you "got bored" of each other wasn't because you saw each other all the time. it was because you ended up not liking the guy and vice versa. i see my boy every day. i live with him. when he's away, i want him home. i love him.

my good friend married a guy that she worked with. she met him at work. they are fine. they don't work together anymore, but that wasn't completely by choice (he got laid off and they were forced to move to a different city).

the important thing to remember in a relationship is that it's ok to be together a whole bunch, but to respect the fact that sometimes your significant other needs to be alone to do their own thang. that's all.

Blue
Oct 6th, 2003, 08:37 PM
the important thing to remember in a relationship is that it's ok to be together a whole bunch, but to respect the fact that sometimes your significant other needs to be alone to do their own thang. that's all.
I think that is the smartest thing anyone has said in this thread...

UP_SHUT
Oct 6th, 2003, 09:00 PM
upshut? shutup.

the reason why you "got bored" of each other wasn't because you saw each other all the time. it was because you ended up not liking the guy and vice versa. i see my boy every day. i live with him. when he's away, i want him home. i love him.


Good point. You really love him, so its all good. I'm just not at the point where I want a serious relationship...being tied down to someone sucks for me right now. Once I find someone I really feel like that about I guess I'll feel that way. I'm just still shopping around.

Royal Tenenbaum
Oct 7th, 2003, 08:41 AM
Just quit the videostore and there won't be a problem.

Drev
Oct 7th, 2003, 02:03 PM
I just hope everything works out for you, Prof. Cool :)

Carnivore
Oct 7th, 2003, 05:32 PM
I went out with a coworker once. We've been together three years now.

Just be careful if you end up being her supervisor. Thank God she quit and got a new job. Never bring work issues home with you.

kahljorn
Oct 7th, 2003, 07:06 PM
Unless you're a prostitute.

Ghost of Fraiser
Oct 8th, 2003, 12:08 AM
Things must be going well, considering they went to seattle together >: