I need some help if anyone is willing to listen

[Babs]

I feel as if this is the wrong place to talk about this here but I'm kind of in a stressed position concerning my girlfriend and our future. The thing is, is that I'm very motivated about my career and really looking forward to pursuing med school and what not, the thing is is that I hope she can be as ambitious as well. I love her a lot, there's not one person in this world I rather go through hell with unless it was her. I'm not trying to question her ambitions at all, though it may come off that way, it's just she's in a really bad position and I'm doing my best to be there for her which is about 24/7 and I still have a lot of stuff to do. This may not sound like a bad situation to the people around me but you have no idea the emotional and physical stress I get and it's seriously really hard. I barely have any support from anyone but I still persevere no matter what the obstacles are. I'm facing all kinds of horrible shit in my life, I have to go get god damn surgery soon because of some god damn tumor growth. It's just I can't really take all this shit coming at me at all fronts. I guess this is some sort of bullshit lament but damn, all I do with my free time is come here to find some chat and give a piece of mind. Sorry for this long entry, just looking for a place to talk. But I do know, that I love my woman a lot and I guess I can have my doubts, I shouldn't question her ambitions, I guess in the end I'm really questioning myself. Sorry for this shit...

[MetalMilitia]

1. Paragraphs.
2. What now? I don't understand what the problem is.

[Babs]

The problem is if I'm just insecure about the situation I'm in with her. Her family was really affected by this whole recession thing and it's put her and her whole family and I really bad position.

The story is is that her family's house needed renovation, particularly the roof needed to be fixed because it was leaking. Well they paid this guy to fix it (their cousin) and he did half of it then the next day he just ran off with the money and never finished what he started. Then all hell breaks loose the next day, Ohio was hit with this really bad storm with winds reported up to 70 mph and her whole house got destroyed. Water got through and ruined the whole entire ceiling, walls, just everything damn thing was destroyed. It's now 8 months later or so and her dad won't even support her family (she has 3 more siblings, 1 being 24 and has the mentality of peter pan) and all he does and make the whole family feel like shit.

I love my girl friend more than anything, but she doesn't seem like she wants to help herself out, let alone another person. She won't get a job or even really try to look for a part time job. I'm stuck doing everything, I'm in no shape to be doing this. I'm just about to get insurance again and as soon as that happens I have to go straight to the surgery room. Not only that, but I have to maintain a constant 3.5 to stay in school. I feel really fucking over whelmed and I wonder if it's me putting her in a bad position in my head. She's been through a hell of a lot and I think she deserves better. It's really hard because when you care for someone so much, you just want what's the best for them even if you can't give them that. I'm only 21 and it seems like I have more to handle than I can right now.

[MetalMilitia]

Sounds like a sticky situation.

To be honest I'd tell her to get off her arse and get a fucking job. Or even look for a job for her - "I've seen they're looking for people down at X, you should check it out".

If her whole family is in the shit and she's of working age it's her responsibility to help.

[Babs]

I totally feel the same way, I just didn't know if I was being an unreasonable person. Yeah, I think today I'm going to wake her ass up early (she'll probably wake me up) and get her some applications.

[Zhukov]

If she loved you she would be trying as ahrd as fuck to make your situation easier, just like what you are doing for her. If she can make it easier by sorting herself out, then she needs to do that.

Also, if you are hindered from your studies, or your job or even from being healthy because of her, you should tell her. Same thing applies, if she loved you she would want the best for you. It's hard, I know, but you need to put yourself first in this case.

[Shrubfest]

I'm a useless unmotivated girl. I'd appreciate it if you got me job suggestions and helped me find work.

If she looks at you funny, then hit her with a stick. That could help too.

[Tadao]

Define what love is.

[Dr. Boogie]

Your girlfriend's family is fucked up. Her cousin stole from them, her dad won't take care of his own kids, and she's not interested in making some money to help out herself. What is it that you think you can do to fix her situation?

She may have had some bad luck in life, but nothing's going to change for her unless she shows some initiative.

[kahljorn]

tell her to get a job. Don't get the applications for her. ;\

Even if she doesn't get a job anytime soon you at least gotta stress her out. Don't let her get comfortable being an asshat. Its been EIGHT MONTHS and she hasn't got a job to help her family?

Are you helping her family?

[Babs]

I've been doing a lot actually, I've been helping them with food and got her brother a job. I got her some applications earlier just to help out and she's about to get a car so I'm really hoping this is going to help out a lot.

[10,000 Volt Ghost]

I hope it works out for you. I went through the exact same situation when I was 19. Words of advice: don't get engaged, remember what you're putting into the relationship and there's plenty of girls in the sea.

[Babs]

Define what love is.

the exact opposite feelings of what I have for you :\

[b_squared]

She sounds like she is using you. Once you can no longer provide help in any way, your gonna be replaced. Times are rough, but there are still jobs out there.
And don't forget the plan of a desperate woman looking for cash, they get pregnant.
It sounds like you deserve better. Tell her you need a break in the relationship to work things out. Maybe after 4-5 months you will see things more clearly.

[pac-man]

He probably doesn't deserve better

[Babs]

You probably deserve to have your face raked on the cement

Oh by the way, how old are you and what's your career?

[Tadao]

You probably deserve to have your face raked on the cement

Oh by the way, how old are you and what's your career?

I'm surprised you're old enough to start a career. You have a very simple problem here, what will happen when you do something more challenging like buy a used car! :eek

[Babs]

quite simple, just save a month's salary up which is about as much as you make in one year.

I still have the opposite of love's feelings for you, so do not worry on that part.

[Tadao]

Oh yeah! I'm a millionaire on the internet! Look at me! I can't figure out girls but I can make big claims about the size of my wallet on the web! Why doesn't anyone like me here :tear

[Tadao]

That's probably why she out fucking everyone while you go to work. Because you have a "big" wallet.

[Babs]

Why don't you go live under a bridge in the mountains where you can't bother anyone you troll. While you're at it, why don't you just go walk off that bridge or waltz your ass into oncoming traffic, spare the embarrassment of being homeless.

Ok, now I feel like an asshole for saying that and just going down to that level of archaic conflict.

[Tadao]

AHAHAHA A TROLL REFERENCE, I GUESS THAT MAKES YOU A BILLY GOAT! OMG YOU SHOULD TOTALLY GROWN A GOATEE, I BET SHOULD WOULD WHORE AROUND ANYMORE! YOU TOTALLY POWNED ME DUDE! LOLZ!!11!

[Babs]

CAPS LOCK!!!1!!IONE!!! IM TRYN MUH HARDEST TO MAKE A SCEN3 ON DA INTERNETZZZZ!!1!

POwneDo0Rzzz 8=============D

[Tadao]

I guess in the end I'm really questioning myself. Sorry for this shit...

:tear

[Tadao]

Face it, you're just a pussy and you're thankfully that your lazy ass whore would even want a pathetic little cry baby like you.

[Babs]

You're probably some divorced piece of shit because you found your wife cheating on your ass or even better, you were just a limp dick pansy with no game. See the difference here is that someone actually wants me opposed to your pathetic troll ass (as in you actually look like a troll) and that makes you very furious. Why don't you just stop caring about shit that doesn't involve you, or is that to hard for you?

Pretty intriguing that you care so much to stick your upturned, bulbous nose into this so much deeper than it should ever be.

[Tadao]

Ok, I see your little pansy ass is butt hurt for being flamed in loveline. I guess you did the right thing posting about your troubled love life to people who know these things about you.

1. You like memes
2. You like metal

We now know that you make fat cash and have feelings. I'm so sorry I didn't know those last 2. That would make all the difference here!

[Tadao]

I will do my best to help you out now that I have a better understanding of you.

"I love my girl friend more than anything, but she doesn't seem like she wants to help herself out, let alone another person."

Perhaps she hates her life. Best thing to do, if you love her, is to set her free and let her find a real man that can make her want to live again.

[Babs]

:)

I take it this happened to you.

[Tadao]

Yeah, of course it has. Don't tell me you are still with the same girl from Jr. High.

[Babs]

life..... :\

[Tadao]

It's hard to drag someone out of the dumps. They usually need a change. You'll have to be the bad guy and the dick who kicked her while she was down, but she'll finally find a reason to finally get off her ass and you won't be posting silly shit on loveline.

[Babs]

thank you

[Tadao]

You're gonna try to fix it though huh? I had to do the bad guy thing just last year. It wasn't working out, she was in the process of divorcing her husband because of me and there was battles over their little girl and her family hated me. She was becoming more and more depressed and was getting towards the end of her rope, so I decided to end it so that she could make piece with her family and her daughter.

It sucked and I really liked her. But I'm sure she will be able to find a guy who her family accepts and I'll be able to eventually be able to find another mental case willing to date me.

[pac-man]

Hey, fun boys! Get a room!

[kahljorn]

Your girlfriend and her family seems like a bunch of twats. Quit helping them.

[10,000 Volt Ghost]

Some people just need a kick in the rear. Is she your first girlfriend?

[pac-man]

Of course she is. Stop humoring this douche.

[Big McLargehuge]

Dump the bitch. Sometimes love just isn't worth it.

[Big McLargehuge]

Besides what you are feeling probably isn't even love, how the fuck would YOU know what love is? I am sure there is at least one girl otu there with a job who is dumb/fat/ugly enough for you to have a chance at.

[kahljorn]

this girls just gonna suck your soul out of your dick ;o

[Dixie]

this girls just gonna suck your soul out of your dick ;o
Yeah, never trust a good blow job.

[Babs]

indeed, I need more fat hoes

[Tadao]

You had me at fat :love

[Babs]

why do birds suddenly appear, everything you are near

[Dixie]

You're drunk aren't you?


AREN'T YOU?!??!?!??




is ok cuz i am too

[MattJack]

Yeah, never trust a good blow job.

;_;

[Dixie]

;_;

That doesn't mean you can't enjoy them, just don't trust em.

[10,000 Volt Ghost]

Just look the other way. Stop short and dribble.

[Dixie]

http://www.douchebagreport.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/11/jerry_stiller.jpg
STOP SHORT!

[MattJack]

That doesn't mean you can't enjoy them, just don't trust em.

Whew, I saw my life flashing before my eyes for a moment there.

[MattJack]

I'd actually say never trust a good reach around. Ever.

[Babs]

Don't trust fat chicks with your dick

[Tadao]

That is not very good advice Babs, big ladies are often very good at cock love.

[Babs]

This is actually a proven fact. Fat girls are always hungry and willing to put anything in their mouths hence forth they love fat sticks of meat to shove down their gullets.

edit: they also like to use euphemisms such as stating they're "BBW"

[Babs]

You're drunk aren't you?


AREN'T YOU?!??!?!??




is ok cuz i am too

You know me all to well

[Tadao]

I like drunk broken Babs.

[Babs]

I GOT FREE CHIPOTLE TODAY

now I'm fat

[Dixie]

I like drunk broken Babs.
Mold him like clay Tad. With the spirit of bitter perversion. Make him ready for failure.

[Babs]

My girlfriend just now decided to bring up the topic when I stated I would fuck a particular nun. hmphh.... women!

[Tadao]

What, that she's a lazy whore?

[Babs]

Where have you been my whole life? Finally, a chapter entitled "Understanding" has came into my life.

[DevilWearsPrada]

This is where tadao makes an ejaculation joke.

[Babs]

hahaha now I just found my girlfriend has been getting onto my myspace and shit. DAMN BITCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCH

[Dixie]

Dude.
RUN.

[Tadao]

I hate to bring this up again, who am I kidding I love it!

When a person is cheating on you, the will often try to see if you are cheating on them. Most of the time it is the accuser who is doing the cheating. AND YES IT HAS HAPPENED TO ME! :p

[Babs]

It's terrible. I want to leave somewhat but like god damn, somethings are so beautiful. ART FAG!!!!

I just wish she would stop acting like my mother.

I've been talking to this one woman who is a little bit older than me but she is amazing. Only thing her boyfriend just recently passed away and I must have respect.

[Tadao]

That's silly. She needs someone to hold her and love her. That is totally respectful. As long as your not going to just get laid and leave or use her for money and drugs, I see no problem there. Don't let other peoples who need rules to keep them from abusing people tell you what you should or should not do.

Homo.

[Babs]

Tough and awkward positions. Yeah, I really just want to be free right now too. Spring is coming and I want to be renewed again and shit, plus I need a lot of stress off me since class is starting up again soon.

[Tadao]

Drugs, do em.

[AChimp]

I'm confused by this thread now. Did you dump the lazy chick or what?

[Babs]

I hid that bitch's body

[Big McLargehuge]

you are going to be alone forever

[Babs]

sadly i'm not

[Big McLargehuge]

Having a bitch in yer bed doesn't mean you aren't alone :(

[Babs]

she's not the only one....

[Big McLargehuge]

The loneliest life you can live is hoppin' from slut to slut.

[Tadao]

WRONG!

[kahljorn]

that's not what stories with morals say tadao >:

[Babs]

STILL WRONG!

[kahljorn]

YOU CAN SAY THAT BUT CAN YOU WRITE A STORY WITH A MORAL AT THE END THAT SAYS SO?

I DIDNT THINK SO.

AND DONT YOU EVEN BEGIN TO AMPHIBOLIZE :rolleyes

[Babs]

:pac

[Kitsa]

Not that this has, uh, happened to anyone I know or anything....ahem....:rolleyes

Something that hasn't yet been mentioned (at least not what I saw skimming 4 pgs of posts) is this:

If you have been speaking a great deal about your medical school plans, and you're in a relationship with a certain type of person, that person has a way of....speculating. If you know what I mean. A way of looking into the future and seeing a hardworking doctor, equipped with significant other who reaps status, security and cash for no particular reason other than that they're affiliated with you.

I was in an eerily similar position at about your same time in life. I was taking medical school classes pre-MCAT by special permission. I was on the Dean's list almost every semester and doing great. And the person I was with was...well, more or less there. Sorta.

I was stupidly flattered to have anyone at all, due to my whole self-loathing thing, and willingly overlooked all sorts of glaring problems with the relationship. Not the least of these was his propensity to talk about his future as a "house husband" and "working from home". I disregarded these warning signs and assumed he was going to educate himself, get his degree and certifications, and that never happened.

Matter of fact, as the years went by he lost job after job, was pretty much the exact opposite of reliable, and clearly did not give a rat's ass about my various medical emergencies. My family was far more gracious than they should have been.

Long story short, when my health deteriorated to the point that I had to leave medical school to work and keep my insurance, and later when I had to leave work altogether, he was not there for me. As a matter of fact, when I could no longer make sure the bills were all paid, he didn't "love" me anymore and routinely threatened to leave. I was dumb and naive and tried to salvage the relationship, but it wasn't happening. When I could no longer provide money, he took it. That's a very long story and since it wound up in court I probably shouldn't go into it here.

Here's the condensed version: he was "there" when he thought I was going to be a doctor with a secure future and lots of cash. When that didn't work out, he wasn't "there" for me anymore and my life became a prolonged living hell. He was never there for ME at all, just himself, trying to stick it out and watch an investment grow.

The uninitiated have no idea of the massive student loans and life-drain that medical school entails. They don't know how deep in debt most newly-minted physicians start out. They have a dim, underpants-gnome understanding of the situation: Step 1, attach yourself to doctor-to-be. Step 2..............Step 3, biiiig profit.

The last thing in the world you need, going into surgery to get a tumor removed and worrying about all those implications, is going in worrying that the person in the waiting room is not worried about you but where their future security will come from. I've been there and trust me, you don't want that. You really don't want that.

Just some things to think about.

[kahljorn]

well it was kinda mentioned when we called her a lazy cuntbag leech

but good advice all the same..

YOU SHOULD QUIT YOUR JOB BABALITY OR SAY YOURE GETTING A PAY CUT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS :O

[Kitsa]

Well, I'd like to think my help was more SPECIFIC than that, kahl.

[Babs]

I think Kitsa and I need our own day time show. Kind of like the days of our lives sort of thing.

[Kitsa]

I was trying to express my solidarity :(