Not exactly a "romantic" relationship question,more a people-in-your-life question...

[Kitsa]

Is there a point where you are just completely willing to write someone out of your life? If so, how far do they have to push you? Does it have to be a big betrayal? A long history of using you or taking you for granted? Some broken promises? Just generally treating you like shit?

I try to be pretty easygoing but I've got a couple of candidates on the horizon and I'm thinking about it.

I'm not talking about hating someone, I'm talking about "Have a nice life, fucker, I never want to see or hear from you again." So far there are only a couple of individuals who have had the privilege, but life is short and people are shit.

[Dimnos]

Are you talking about people in your life in general? Or people you have been involved with? If you are talking people in general... If they are just annoying or a dumb ass I try to avoid them. If its someone you are involved with... As soon as you break up with them I never want to see them again.

[Kitsa]

Just in general. If I break up with someone that's it, they might as well be jettisoned into space.

[dirtyxblondexdame]

honestly, i do that alot. usually with me it's the 3 months rule of thumb -- if idon't talk to someone for more than 3 months, then i don't need to stay friends with them. i clean out the phone address book quarterly :) if you want to be friends, lets be friends. don't just say it and make me keep your IM name and phone number in my contacts so that you can not talk to me.

other than that, when people suck, i just stop talking to them. i never felt the need for any dramatic "fuck you, get out of my life" (though there have been times that would have been fun and appropriate), usually people will get the hint and leave me alone if i stop returning calls, IMS and emails.

on the other hand, sometimes i don't return messages for weeks at a time. oops.

[stevetothepast]

I have a bit of lenience but sometimes you just get so fucking sick of looking at people that constantly lie to you, bullshit talk around you etc.

I just wrote someone out the other day to be honest, a friend and old room-mate of years. Fuck him.

[Sam]

I GOT NO ROOM IN MY LIFE FOR A TRAITOR

[Skulhedface]

I'm of no help here. Much to my wife's chagrin, my ex's almost universally insist on remaining friends, and in all honesty, our breakups (save one or two) weren't really acrimonious. My wife gets intensely mad about it because I do have a lot of friends, exs included, but then I constantly have to reassure her, "If I wanted to be with them, what sense does it make to marry you?"

[Tadao]

I'm not talking about hating someone, I'm talking about "Have a nice life, fucker, I never want to see or hear from you again."

Yeah, 2 really old friends.

[Fathom Zero]

I have one. He was a good friend, but he turned into a real bastard. I'm going to his house this week to pick up my games and probably never speak to him again.

He's a two-faced bastard, but he's like that with everyone, so at least he's consistent.

[Dimnos]

What did he do?

[Tadao]

THAT'S AN AWFULLY PERSONAL QUESTION

[Dimnos]

That makes this an awfully personal thread!

[Colonel Flagg]

[Fredo], you're nothing to me now... You're not a brother. You're not a friend. I don't want to know you or what you do... I don't want to see you at the hotels. I don't want you near my house... When you see our mother, I want to know a day in advance so I won't be there... You understand?

Give him this speech, verbatim. He'll get it.

EDIT: It would help if you were Sicilian, though. :\

[Fathom Zero]

What did he do?

He talks shit behind people behind their back and he's very hostile. I tried getting through to him, thinking that something's been bothering him, but I realized that this is just his personality. He's an asshole, always has been, but he's been getting nasty as of late. So fuck him. I don't want a friend like that.

[Sam]

I'm sorry Fathom, I will be a better friend to you in the future. :tear

[Colonel Flagg]

He talks shit behind people behind their back and he's very hostile.

I used to know someone like that. I thought he respected my work, then I found out he was talking smack behind my back. Sayonara, baby - don't let the doorknob hit you in the ass on the way out.

Funny thing is, he tried to ask for my help on a problem he was having at work. I basically told him to work it the f*** out.

[Fathom Zero]

I know. My soon-to-not be friend does just as much. He takes friendships for granted. He's afraid of being alone, but he just alienates everybody. I can't change that, and he doesn't want to. So we're done. It's that simple.

[The Leader]

Punch him in the cock.

[Fathom Zero]

No, to hurt him the worst would be to let go of him, so that's what I'm going to do.

[The Leader]

If you love something, let it go. :(

[El Renardo]

If you love something, let it go. :(
And if you hate something, let it go... and hope to God it doesn't come back.

[MetalMilitia]

My problem with this is that for a friendship to deteriorate to such an extent that you might tell someone you never want to see them again you must be going to quite a lot of trouble to maintain the façade that you still like them.

Why don't you just register your irritation with people whenever they irritate you and save yourself the drama?

[Fathom Zero]

My problem with this is that for a friendship to deteriorate to such an extent that you might tell someone you never want to see them again you must be going to quite a lot of trouble to maintain the façade that you still like them.

Why don't you just register your irritation with people whenever they irritate you and save yourself the drama?

We used to be good friends. The only reason why we are still friends is because we were friends. But, I told me mate goodbye and that was that. Phone calls from 'im are going to go unanswered from this point forth.

[ZeldaQueen]

I guess that would depend on your gut feelings.

I personally have pretty far limits on keeping friends. Thus far, there's only been one person who I was friends with and dropped. This happened after she told some very blatent lies to me (that she was a famous model, a Russian child actress, was in a full-blown production of Les Miserables as Gavroche, had to smuggle jewelry when she left Russian to come to America, got a 100% on her SATs, was accepted to Harvard, decided to go to Pitt instead but was given total free admission, room, and board, etc), basically stalked and harrassed my brother until he was totally freaked out, caused all this trouble insisting that no one ever talked about her behind her back, and seemed to be moving in on my boyfriend.

I never actually told her to get out though as I saw her rarely after I graduated.

[Kitsa]

I remember being in high school with a girl with whom I'd been fairly friendly up to that point. We were bored in a class, and she made some sort of little cartoon about a dog and passed it back to me. I made another cartoon about the dog and passed it back to her.

Then the note-passing stopped abruptly and she ran out of class as soon as the bell rang. A couple of days later she hurled this long, ridiculous, 4 page handwritten letter at me. It was all about how the dog-cartoon was HER thing and how DARE I draw the dog also and she would never be able to trust me again blah blah blah. It was weird, overblown, overdramatic overkill. I still have it somewhere.

My reaction to this, mentally, was "wtf, crazy bitch alert" and I wrote her out of my life right then and there. Didn't say anything to her, didn't go out of my way not to speak to her, just didn't ever deal with her again. Until facebook, when a bunch of other people I was only marginally on speaking terms with found me and "suggested" her as a friend. Fuck that.

That's what I don't like about facebook. If I didn't like them then, what makes them think I'd like them now?

[ZeldaQueen]

Weird, that sounds like the girl I knew. She started off perfectly alright and was one of my three friends in dance class. Then she met my brother and hung out with us more outside of class and began to make increasingly bizzare claims. We couldn't prove she was lying of course, but my "Bull alert" kept going off almost every time she spoke. It was like someone flipped a switch on her. What makes that happen to people I wonder?

At least it sounds like you got rid of her pretty quickly. Our crazy girl hung around a bit longer, partially because after an incident in which she screwed her boyfriend in the school bathroom (long story) my bf thought she needed her friends to stand by her and kept inviting her along places.

[Colonel Flagg]

One of the reasons I avoid facebook. Like it was plutonium. :(

Seriously, she sounded like the kind of kid who, if she had been in high school during the late 90's early 00's, might have gone out and bought guns and ammo and pulled a Columbine.

Over a G-D dog cartoon.

[Kitsa]

Speaking of plutonium, I was watching a documentary about the melee immediately following the fall of nazi germany and they showed soldiers handing what they were calling "uranium" down a human chain, bare hands. I wonder how long they lasted :/

Yeah, she had her little idiosyncrasies. I would basically get along with her until a psycho episode, then I'd kind of stay away. She went through an uber-religious phase for a while and found everything offensive. It was almost like some sort of latent superiority complex, sorta. Much less stress now that I don't have to deal with it.

I pretty much hated any school pre-college. I had a few people I got along with, but I just couldn't muster that buy-in that everyone else had. Always got along better with the teachers.

[Colonel Flagg]

Wouldn't it have been funny if at the end of the chain was a barrel that they just kept throwing the stuff in.

As the Germans never were able to sufficiently purify natural uranium to make it "bomb grade", my guess was that this was non-enriched uranium, and that apart from getting a little hot, it probably wouldn't have hurt the soldiers too much. I'd guesstimate no more than a years worth of a pack-a-day habit. Maybe.

Nowadays, they'd be in full-on HAZMAT body suits.

[Kitsa]

Could be. As I've had all the clinical radiation I can ever have, the thought of stuff like that gives me the oogies.

The documentary made the German nuclear physicists look a little dim. The overall claim was that there was a scramble to apprehend the Nazi scientists and they more or less ended up in the US or with the Soviets, meaning both countries more or less owe everything we know about jet propulsion and aerospace science to them.

But the captured Nazi nuclear physicists were a wash. No one talked, so they put them in a bugged manor house in Britain. The radio broadcast of Hiroshima just happened to be within their earshot, and they began discussing excitedly in German how the Americans might have managed it. From listening in to what they said, their captors deduced that they didn't know nearly as much as previously thought, and most were turned loose. One went on to a brilliant career with NASA.

[Colonel Flagg]

At the risk of hijacking this thread and getting banned (:eek) - the problem was that one of the German physicists (either Teller or Schoedinger ?) was convinced that you needed about 1000 times more U235 to create a chain reaction - so they were of the opinion that the nuclear explosive was virtually impossible. I'm not sure where they went wrong, but there are a lot of calculations where a factor of 10 here and there can get inadvertently dropped.

The one who worked for NASA - are you thinking of Werner von Braun? Tom Lehrer wrote a song about him .... :lol

[Kitsa]

Yes, Werner von Braun.

Anyway, to get somewhat back on topic, I find that the older I get the more irritated I am by selfish behavior. Some people just seem to take and take and take and never come through for you when you need anything, and I feel like I don't have time for that anymore.

[Fathom Zero]

People tend to grow up. It's an ugly habit.

[Dixie]

I cut people out of my life very quickly and easily. I have absolutely no qualms about walking away from someone and not looking back.
I go by the three strikes rule for the most part.

[Kitsa]

The funniest thing about that is that those I described are older than I am by a damn sight.

[Tadao]

Never trust anyone over 30

[Fathom Zero]

Maturity never was quantifiable.

Man, I'm full of cheap aphorisms lately.

[Colonel Flagg]

I can't stand individuals who insist on self promotion with little to no substance. All by itself, this is worth "don't let the door hit you on the way out". I'm looking at you, Kenneth! :explode

[ZeldaQueen]

I actually noticed that the people who were absolutely horrible when they were children were a lot nicer when they got older. Of course, it could just be that they were just as horrible but knew enough to hide it. Not that I cared.

[Fathom Zero]

Oh yeah. I was a real fucking bastard as a kid. But, when I was arrested at thirteen, I had an epiphany. I've been doing the right thing, believing that it was really right, ever since.

I'm a contradictory asshole now. I realized that the handful of people I know are relatively good. Worth having. Everyone else can go pound sand. The most cynical optimist in the world.

[Chojin]

I cut people out of my life very quickly and easily. I have absolutely no qualms about walking away from someone and not looking back.
I go by the three strikes rule for the most part.

how many strikes do i have :picklehat

[Dixie]

You're back to 0, this evening went very well

[Fathom Zero]

:O bone-a-fied lovin'

[Dixie]

no "love" sweetie, just alot of grabbing and mosquito bites hahahah

[ZeldaQueen]

I'm a contradictory asshole now. I realized that the handful of people I know are relatively good. Worth having. Everyone else can go pound sand. The most cynical optimist in the world.

That's sort of what I'm like. There are the people who I really like (good friends and family) and if anyone else is a jerk then I don't care because they're not really anything to me. I can smile and wave at pretty much anybody, though I usually think well of people for awhile (it takes quite a bit for someone to get on my Angry List).

[Fathom Zero]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand he's ouuuuuuuuuutta there.

Good riddance, fucker.

[Kitsa]

Yeah, tonight did it for me too. This person is just complete fucking poison and not worth the angst. I'm cutting off all ties, that's it.

[Chojin]

Yeah, tonight did it for me too. This person is just complete fucking poison and not worth the angst. I'm cutting off all ties, that's it.

does this mean you're available

[Kitsa]

It wasn't my boyfriend. :P

[Zomboid]

I pretty much cut off all contact with a whole bunch of people from my hometown. We just don't have anything in common anymore, and it got to the point where hanging out was a real chore for me because hanging out with dumb hicks (who are perfectly content staying in the same town for the rest of their lives) just wasn't worth it for the sake of "staying in touch."

[Fathom Zero]

That's a big problem with me, too. Most of my friends graduated the previous year and they're still in the same town. I'm the first out of the cadre that actually left town. It's very sad. Of course, there's one of them that may come up here with me next year. I certainly hope so.

[kahljorn]

i like to start fights to solve problems

[Chojin]

i like to start fights to solve problems

that's the sort of thing a faggot would say

[Fathom Zero]

kahljorn swordfights

[kahljorn]

haha if you were a man I might be offended

also:
http://i588.photobucket.com/albums/ss323/summonerofnothing/superawesome.jpg

[Chojin]

http://www.i-mockery.com/chojin/saythattomyface.jpg

[kahljorn]

i will and I hope what happens is that you buy me pie.

i guess since fighting is for faggots thats about all you could do if you wanted to be a man about it.

[Chojin]

i never said that fighting is for faggots, i just said that something you said is something that a faggot would say

AND I WASN'T WRONG

[kahljorn]

you're something a faggot would say

[Fathom Zero]

Shit just went down.

[Chojin]

you're something a faggot would say

no u

[kahljorn]

shit i knew that was something a faggot would say but I also knew some other faggot would be compelled to respond to it like some kind faggot mating call and here you are ready to conceive my butt babies you've even asked me to meet y ou in real life so we can see "what happens" when i say you aren't a man. I think I know :love

i guess fathom zero is here for the same reason but I'm monogamous.

[kahljorn]

come on i know you were lured here by tales of my legendary cock and I am more than happy to oblige ;)
dont be shy

[Chojin]

asl

[Sacks]

I did this to several people a few months ago and it felt pretty good. One of them is out of their mind and the rest of them are just general selfish shitheads. Since then I've been dropping people fairly regularly. It's usually the kind of boring people who I've met randomly and they feel like everyone else is supposed to be entertaining them. Also people who call me an asshole all day long without being able to come up with a good explanation of WHY I'm an asshole. It's usually because I didn't agree with them about something or I made a stupid joke at their expense and they don't know how to retort or work around it. If there is anything worse than assholes it's people who just sit around calling people assholes instead of doing something about it. So for my sanity and their character I go ahead and cut it off.

[Kitsa]

I just flat out refused to help someone the other day, and that's not like me at all. Usually I get pressured and cave, but I didn't this time. This person uses people, treats them like shit and generally makes sure the universe revolves around them. (I know that's not grammatically correct; I didn't want a gender identifier).

Beyond that, a relative of this person reduced my mother to tears and the person has said insanely cruel things to me. I just decided that this was going to be one time I wasn't going to step in and be a servant.

It went quite well, because this person's relative had to step in and do the work himself and from what I heard had a hard time of it. After he made my mom cry, I was sort of happy to hear that.

[bigtimecow]

KAHLJORN GET A FUCKING AVATAR ALREADY

[Dimnos]

Here you go Kahl. You can use this one. My gift to you.

http://8hl6fq.blu.livefilestore.com/y1pbU2a9r08g3w_GNXfRHR-Al7McnFnY8t7Klcwfm_6ffXrmabBksjsCO2xQU98WmwQfnGILZ hkG4Y39lPLSt1wbB0ttRD2lx48/untitled.bmp

[Fathom Zero]

i guess fathom zero is here for the same reason but I'm monogamous.

:orgasm wresslin' with the sword.