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Slinky Ferret
Dec 1st, 2003, 05:32 PM
Well I've know this lad since I was 18 (so four years), we are really good friends. However the other night "stuff happened". The question is should we stay just friends or go for something else?

Royal Tenenbaum
Dec 1st, 2003, 05:51 PM
You know the answer. >:

Slinky Ferret
Dec 1st, 2003, 06:09 PM
No I don't. >: I don't know how he feels about me. I have to wait until thursday.

ziggytrix
Dec 1st, 2003, 06:17 PM
well, WE sure don't know the answer :P

MK IV
Dec 1st, 2003, 06:21 PM
Did you enjoy teh secks ?
Was he good ?
If tha answer is yes then you know the answer >:

Slinky Ferret
Dec 1st, 2003, 06:46 PM
Nooo didn't have secks, :eek I got scared :/ was good up until then though. >: Didn't feel right to carry on. Fool aren't I.

MK IV
Dec 1st, 2003, 06:56 PM
Maybe...
Maybe not, If it didnt "feel right", then theres your answer.
Trust your feelings, there usually right.

Besides if it might end up not working, you might get teh secks, but end up loosing a friend.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 1st, 2003, 07:04 PM
By didn't feel right I mean... I suddenly realised I wanted it to be special and not rush into things. :/

MK IV
Dec 1st, 2003, 07:11 PM
ah...

Then it seems you've already sussed out what you want :)

Take it slow, go out for a meal or something, buy yourself a nice dress, you know have a proper date, instead of just two friends hanging out.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 1st, 2003, 07:17 PM
He's a proper gentleman anyway. :) Its been years since I've been in a proper relationship. If thats what he wants I think it will be good fun. :)

I haven't had a proper date for years. >:

MK IV
Dec 1st, 2003, 07:19 PM
Well know you've got the perfect oppertunity, I hope you have a good time when he takes you out. :)

James
Dec 1st, 2003, 10:02 PM
I'm going to assume that you're a girl. I thought you were a guy, but Russo's the only gay on the boards that I know of. And 1/4-1/2 of Chojin. So if you're a guy, keep reaching for that rainbow, sister!

Right now, you've complicated the friendship. I think it's important for you to talk to him, and figure out how he feels, and how you feel. A great intimate relationship is one where you can have a friend in the other person, and you already have that with him. So the only change would be adding intimacy to the friendship, and it's up to both of you to decide how you feel about doing that.

Oh, and cheers to you for knowing when to call it quits. I have to give credit to someone who can say something didn't feel right, and wanting something sexual to also be something special.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 2nd, 2003, 07:21 AM
Well as I said he's a gentleman not the sleasy bastard type that I'm used to. He said he's never that forward before.

Actually from memory all the ones that start out as gentleman became sleasy bastards. >:

Helm
Dec 2nd, 2003, 04:35 PM
He's going to say that again when he sticks his penis up your anus, I'd wagger. Maybe with a small chuckle and a pause for reflection before he resumes the rhythmic trusting.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 2nd, 2003, 06:18 PM
What the fuck? >:

Helm
Dec 2nd, 2003, 08:13 PM
Yes that's what you'd say.

AChimp
Dec 2nd, 2003, 09:14 PM
Helm made me giggle. :(

James
Dec 2nd, 2003, 11:15 PM
Well as I said he's a gentleman not the sleasy bastard type that I'm used to. He said he's never that forward before.

Actually from memory all the ones that start out as gentleman became sleasy bastards. >:

You've known him long enough to make your decision on what kind of person he is.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 07:48 AM
Well I talked to him online last night and he said all this stuff about blocking off his emotions so that he's completely focused and unbiased about things.

I got a bit shitty and said "look you can just say it was a mistake and you don't like me that way, you don't have to give me all this philosophy shit.."

Of course he denies that he thinks it was a mistake and basically I'm sitting here confused and feeling a bit hurt. We talked earlier but it was just computer crap.

From what I can work out he doesn't want to let people get close to him and that I rocked the boat in his perfect world. >:

ziggytrix
Dec 3rd, 2003, 07:54 AM
damn, that sounds dumb. not that i can't relate to the feeling, but not letting anyone get close is lonely way to live. :(

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 08:13 AM
I think men have the ability to block their emotions. I've pretty much shut myself out a few times and sometimes I can detach my emotions from a situation except this time they were there. I think I'll be fine in a few days, just feel a bit hurt because I got a gimpse at happiness. :(

I've been hurt alot over the years but that hasn't stopped me from letting people get close. I don't let people get as close as they used to an I'm selective in who they are. I think its annoyed him because I got under his skin. Not only did he get to my emotional level but I got to his.

>sighs<

I guess love is for everyone else. I think I've taken my chances.

Akennedy90
Dec 3rd, 2003, 09:59 AM
I think you should have sex and be happy. It'll be fun. if he is good stay with him if not stay with him anyway.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 10:39 AM
Perhaps but I can't exactly have sex if he's not wanting to have sex with me.

Dole
Dec 3rd, 2003, 11:24 AM
If he is a man, he will want to have sex. Most men would happily have sex with hoover attachments given even the slightest persuasion.

Anonymous
Dec 3rd, 2003, 11:40 AM
On a related note, I once saw a TV show in which the cast recreated an emergency call from a hotel janitor who found a man that had inadvertently gotten his Man's Best Friend stuck in a jacuzzi jet. How? I don't know. Still, the ambulance crew stopped laughing long enough to remove the man.


The point of this story, if there is one at all, is that not all men are particular about what they put into what else.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 01:21 PM
Well I know alot of men that go after anything in a skirt. But I would like to think there is more to me than just sex.

So I should just forget it shouldn't I? :(

Helm
Dec 3rd, 2003, 01:52 PM
Maybe you did something which freaked him out and he's trying to find a way of telling you he doesn't want to have sex with you any longer without actually reffering to what freaked him out. That would explain all the philosophy bulshit. Did you do anything out of the ordinary? Like break out the strap-on and give him a ride with the wild stalion? You know, not all guys enjoy that sort of thing.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 01:58 PM
No nothing crazy like that but he did say that he wasn't normally this forward.

Just talked to him again and went all skeptical. We were talking about nightclubs and I said I went to walkabout and that all these boys were trying to pull me. He said that they "well they certainly have good taste - and u must just have that certain something".

>: I'm not going to talk to him now until I see him tomorrow. I feel really shit now. Its really pathetic. >:

Cosmo Electrolux
Dec 3rd, 2003, 02:00 PM
He's going to say that again when he sticks his penis up your anus, I'd wagger. Maybe with a small chuckle and a pause for reflection before he resumes the rhythmic trusting.
:lol Helm has such a way with words

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 02:12 PM
Yes it disturbs me greatly the amount of detail he went into...

Helm
Dec 3rd, 2003, 02:38 PM
If he's reluctant, then he obviously doesn't like you enough, physically. Don't believe what he says. 'Feelings' is just something people use as means of getting what they want. If he's not fucking you right now, it means he wants to fuck your betters. If he is fucking you after some reluctancy, it is because he's either drunk enough, or you do anal, or something. Anal. Um.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 03:04 PM
This is where it all falls down. I know he's attracted to me, I know he wants me. But HE doesn't like the fact that what happened affected his emotions and so gives me all this crap because he doesn't want to get hurt. >:

Oh it doesn't matter anymore. Will update after tomorrow.

I can predict a nasty arguement and me going home early.

AChimp
Dec 3rd, 2003, 03:59 PM
He is being a girly man! >:

Slinky Ferret
Dec 3rd, 2003, 05:46 PM
Exactly. All this hassle for nothing! >:

So taking my ex along. At least he doesn't do this girlee shit.

Anonymous
Dec 4th, 2003, 01:38 AM
Helm had me dying all through this. :< But Jamesman set it up for him. :<

Seriously? Slinky? Guy's a stone blowhose. You should probably kill him if murder's legal in your country.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 4th, 2003, 04:57 AM
I remember him talking about this elite crap before. Should have remembered. Anyway, feeling alot better after a good sleep and listening to lots of metal.

>: It would have been alot easier if he'd just said it was a mistake and he doesn't like me like that. I guess not all men get straight to the point like Helm. :P

Murder isn't legal in my country except for treason and they are too scared to carry that out. I think we should bring back corpral punishment for those that have over whelming evidence. To be honest, the ones who are pedos should be the first to go, seeing as they get beaten up when they go into prison.

Protoclown
Dec 4th, 2003, 12:30 PM
You may as well forget the whole thing, Slinky. It's not worth dealing with all the bullshit that comes with it. Friends are better than lovers anyway.

Buffalo Tom
Dec 4th, 2003, 01:27 PM
You may as well forget the whole thing, Slinky. It's not worth dealing with all the bullshit that comes with it. Friends are better than lovers anyway.

Lovers give better head, though. :(

Royal Tenenbaum
Dec 4th, 2003, 01:31 PM
"Friends are better than lovers anyway."

They are? :/

Bennett
Dec 4th, 2003, 01:57 PM
You would know if you had some, Royal.


sssssssssssssssssssss

BURN.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 4th, 2003, 02:25 PM
Yup, you're right as always Protoclown!

:)

I feel its for the best. Don't feel sad anymore. Wasn't really that attracted to him anyway. Its just we were close friends.

Royal Tenenbaum
Dec 4th, 2003, 03:03 PM
You would know if you had some, Royal.


sssssssssssssssssssss

BURN.


But... I do have some. >: Friends and a lover. :)

Protoclown
Dec 4th, 2003, 04:47 PM
I don't actually believe that "friends are better than lovers" shit, I just want to make myself feel better in my perpetual loneliness. SO AGREE WITH ME, GODDDAMMIT.

camacazio
Dec 4th, 2003, 06:50 PM
I agree :(

CaptainBubba
Dec 4th, 2003, 06:58 PM
What the fuck is a lover?

Friends rock and rule, especially when they let you move your boner over so it wont touch their leg when theyre on you. :picklehat

Friends are also cools cuz theyll talk to you about snowballing and kegels. :picklehat :picklehat

I bet "lovers" don't even have sex. :rolleyes

Protoclown
Dec 4th, 2003, 07:43 PM
HOW CAN WE BE LOVERS IF WE CAN'T BE FRIENDS

executioneer
Dec 4th, 2003, 09:29 PM
PROTOCLOWN, ARE FRIENDS JUST ENEMIES WHO DON'T HAVE THE GUTS TO KILL YOU? :eek

-willie

Slinky Ferret
Dec 5th, 2003, 05:05 AM
Well last night was eventful. It all happened when my ex had finally decided to stop telling me off about a certain unrelated situation and my other ex trying to get me drunk whilst talking about IT stuff had both gone home.

My aforementioned friend and I spent the rest of the night (in between him moshing and me chattering to friends) kissing. Then we spent an hour and a half in his car listening to the radio, talking computer talk and kissing lots.

>: Now I have to go and do 2 assignments at uni. He's working all day. So I bet I get home and he gives me the same crap as before, but we shall have to see.

Helm
Dec 7th, 2003, 08:44 PM
When you say kissing, does that include kissing his penis? If not, I suggest you do include that in your 'kissing' because obviously that's what's giving you relationship problems. I suggest that next time you see him, you take a running start and smash your face on the hood of his car or a wall or that person there with those glasses with the huge frame they'll do until all your frontal teeth are you knocked out. Then, all bloody and messy and standing there, proclaim that "you are ready now". Grin. Spit blood. Grin.

Slinky Ferret
Dec 8th, 2003, 05:55 PM
>: So not only are you telling me I have to take it up the arse but I have to smash my face into his car as well?

Thats where all my past relationships have gone wrong then.

Jixby Phillips
Dec 9th, 2003, 03:48 AM
PROTOCLOWN, ARE FRIENDS JUST ENEMIES WHO DON'T HAVE THE GUTS TO KILL YOU? :eek

FRIENDS ARE JUST ENEMIES WHO DON'T HAVE THE GUTS TO KILL YOU

Slinky Ferret
Dec 9th, 2003, 06:05 AM
>: Well I'm glad you got that one sorted.

AChimp
Dec 9th, 2003, 10:06 AM
Helm made me LOL again. :lol

SmileALot
Dec 22nd, 2003, 06:11 PM
Jeez next time you see him pull him into your bedroom and act like a beast itl get his attention and love :lol2

Slinky Ferret
Dec 25th, 2003, 08:07 PM
As I said its getting him to see me in person. Once we're in person we can't keep our hands off each other. ;)

>: I have to wait until January 5th.