:(

[Rongi]

There's this beautiful, brilliant girl in acting class that I really like :(. She's everything I've ever wanted in a girl and even a little more. But I feel as though she's on a higher level then me and if I upproached her I'd ruin our semi-friendship :/. It's not like she's snobby, oh no she's very nice. I just think she's a lot better then me and asking her out or something wouldn't be a good idea, but I really like her. What do I do :(?

PS. All idiots ( payne, mad max, etc. ) will be ignored and most likely laughed at.

[HickMan]

I thought the same thing. I know a wonderful girl that I am going out with since the beginning of the school year. I thought she was on a higher level too. She liked me as a friend, too. It sounds like we were friends longer than you were with this girl. But I still asked her out and she said yes.
If I were you, I'd become better friends with her and then ask her out. And talk to her. A lot, if you have her AIM name or something like that. :/
But hey, eventually, go for it. You got nothing to lose aside from a small friendship. And if she gets pissed at you just for asking her out. Well, the way you described her, she wouldn't get mad.

[Ghost of Fraiser]

God Dammit, I am going to tell you what I told Professor Cool when he was worried about asking out the girl who is now his Fiancee.

Suck it up, and give it a go. You might as well cut off your penis and give your brain a lobotomy if you aren't going to use either of them. Would you rather...

A) Try to ask her out. Get turned down, but feel that at least you tried and she just wasnt going to be the one

B) Obsess over her from afar, never trying. If she's so damn smart she'll notice it and think you some kind of freak.

Hell, she might be impressed that you would ask her out of the blue like that. If she turns you down, do NOT say "Just Kidding", that will ruin any cahnce in the future with her because you insulted her, I know that for a fact.

That's basically what I told him, and if he didn't give it a try like he was planning to until i told him that, it would of been the stupidest thing he ever did.

[ScruU2wice]

think of what a relationship would be like if one is completely in love with the other and the other isn't even partially as committed...

I think it wouldn't work out well if you are willing to do everythign for her and she can only return a quarter of the love to you. But do whatever you feel is right just think of the consequences of all your actions

[Rongi]

Thanks for the advice guys :)

I left out a part though :(

The last relationship she was in was really bad. She found out her boyfriend was a pot head ( actually, it wasn't even pot, it was oregono ) when he told her he had just smoked the best stuff in his entire life. So now she says she kinda off dating for a while :/

[Ghost of Fraiser]

That's a lie, whenever they say oh I just came off a bad break up, I not in the dating thing right now, it's a nice way of saying "Back Off"

If you really want this girl you should still try. Only then you will know if it's a definite yes or no.

[HickMan]

And if she is off of dating, still. There is no reason not to become really good friends with her.

[CaptainBubba]

Flirt like mad. Read her responses as well as you can. Keep making the flirting more obvious as she does (if she does). If it gets to a point where she keeps the flirting at a particular level and she never touches you then she doesnt like you. give up. If she keeps coming on harder and getting closer just kiss her.

Easier said than done though.

[Protoclown]

I know your pain, Rongi. There has been many a fine girl I wanted to ask out but didn't for one reason or another. I'm too fucking shy and I always think the girls are above my level.

Which is exactly why you should go for it. Otherwise, you'll end up like me.

[FartinMowler]

Brush your teeth and where deodorant and wear a clean shirt and comb your hair and ask her to lunch and if she refuses then slink away slowly but look cool.


See I didn't say anything rude. >: Post a picture of her later. :)

[Big McLargehuge]

I had the same problem and when I finally asked her out she said that she had a boyfriend and would still want to hang out with me if she wasn't going to study in Spain for the next semester. The moral is: don't ask her out, or she will make up a boyfriend and pretend to move to Spain. :(

[Rongi]

Easier said than done though.

What an understatement :(. I mean, that could work but if I did that infront of my teacher I'd get thrown out probably :(.

I'm too fucking shy and I always think the girls are above my level.

That is exactly my fucking problem. I had the chance to date this girl over the summer ( she would have fucked me too probably :( ), but I didn't take it cause I was a chicken shit :(

Post a picture of her later.

I can't afford a camera. I have a picture of me, but I dunno where my scanner is :(. Besides, she's a lot cuter then me :(

[Rongi]

Tommorrow I have rehersal ( yes, on christmas eve ) and I will prepare for tommorrow by furiously masturbating tonight and getting piss drunk ( hopefully I'll be a little drunk tommorrow, which will make it easier )

[CaptainBubba]

Just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. For fucks sake man, you don't have to ask her out right off the bat. Feign an interest in merely a friendship at first.

That sounds really evil but thats the way it has to be sometimes to feel things out and not ruin a friendship.

[Royal Tenenbaum]

Yeah, just ask her if she'd like to go get some lunch sometime. Or find out what types of things she likes to do, and then ask her if she wants to come with you somewhere. See if she'll even be your friend outside of acting first.

[jin]

Even the prettiest girls poop. :D

Superiority is a myth.

[Ghost of Fraiser]

( she would have fucked me too probably :( )


An attitude like that makes me wonder if you deserve a lady like that >:

[HickMan]

LOOKS HAVE NOTHING TO DO IN THE WAY OF LUVVE.

[Rongi]

An attitude like that makes me wonder if you deserve a lady like that >:

I was kidding :/

Besides, I heard she's like a lesbian now or something :eek

[Royal Tenenbaum]

You weren't kidding. :lol

[Dole]

"She found out her boyfriend was a pot head"
-No!! Have you suggested counselling? I don't think you should try and take advantage of her in such a fragile emotional state, I mean SHE MIGHT HAVE POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER OR SOMETHING

[Royal Tenenbaum]

But, it wasn't pot, it was oregano. So, I guess she just found out her boyfriend was a fucking idiot.

[Suck 'n' Fuck]

Who the fuck smokes oregano, and why the fuck madness would they smoke oregano? I could probably get a better high by sniffing my own farts.

[Protoclown]

Anyway, Rongi, you have nothing to lose so you may as well go for it. If you do NOTHING, you'll never see her again after the acting class is over. It's a mistake I've been making all my life. You should go balls out and see what happens.

[FartinMowler]

Do you guy's actually get out in the real world and socialize with ladies or what? I met my wife and many ladies before her and I don't remember a mouse and keyboard having anything to do with it.

[/quote]Otherwise, you'll end up like me. It's a mistake I've been making all my life

[HickMan]

Anyway, Rongi, you have nothing to lose so you may as well go for it. If you do NOTHING, you'll never see her again after the acting class is over. It's a mistake I've been making all my life. You should go balls out and see what happens.

AMEN! Proto, you need a lady.

Both of you have nothing to lose. Rongi, go for it. Proto, don't let another one pass you up.

[ItalianStereotype]

Even the prettiest girls poop. :D

Superiority is a myth.

best post in this entire thread.

If she turns you down, Rongi, you should bite her nose and hide in the closet. If anyone comes after you, block them out by screaming the theme song to "Benji Takes a Dive."

[Anonymous]

Any girl that is at all attractive and actually leaves the house will have been asked out and hit on a shit load of times. I know it seems like a big deal to you, but I assure you it is no big deal to her. She will not be impressed or offended or anything else like that. If she isn't interested she will give you her standard "no thanks" - whatever that may be. She won't lose any sleep over it, and there is a very likely chance she already knows you like her, and maybe even expects you to try and ask her out.
I know it seems like some huge move and it's easy to project that onto her feelings and think she will have some major reaction, but I promise you it is no big deal either way. Unless of course you do something creepy in asking her out like write her a 10 page love letter. (That happened to me a few times)
There is only one time in my life I was ever actually offended by someone trying to ask me out and that is because I hated the person in an intense and violent manner and were they not so socially inept they would have known that since it was obvious.
She will most likely take your asking her out as a compliment even if she isn't interested, and it shouldn't really cause weirdness between you as long as you don't make it weird and instead act casual about it all.

[Brandon]

Even the prettiest girls poop. :D

Superiority is a myth.
Agreed.

The worst thing you can do when attempting to woo a pretty girl is to place her on a pedestal. Attractive women are constantly being hit on by guys--they're not looking for groveling worshippers, but interesting equals who distinguish themselves from the crowd of men banging on the door.

[Spooky]

Eh, we've all been there, just blow her off, who cares, it's just another girl.

Love is a creation of society to justify recreational mating :(

[CaptainBubba]

No its not. That statement is the creation of a demographic of society who feel left out of recreational mating and are trying to justify their contempt for people who claim to have love in a way such as it would disguise their otherwise oblivious envy.

[Protoclown]

Doopa, what you said there was stuff that I wish I'd heard years ago. That was a big help to me, and I'm betting Rongi will get something out of it as well. Thank you.

I'm going to a new year's eve party that should be pretty cool, and hopefully there will be some nice ladies to woo there. Oh, yes.

[Lenor]

Doopa has a great point indeed!

But theres two points I wanna make:

1.If this girl is used to being asked out then she probally would of asked you out if she likes you, and know that you like her.

2. If she just got out of a really bad relationship, then your just gonna be her 'rebound' in which case you probally wont last long, and will be used alot.

and being friends with a girl befor you get together, usually leads too 'but I dont want to ruin our friendship' type of thing.

[Anonymous]

If this girl is used to being asked out then she probally would of asked you out if she likes you, and know that you like her.

nah. a lot of girls won't ask a guy out. I was one of them. Actually I think it's safe to assume more girls won't ask a guy out than those who would.
Thinking about that would be self-defeating and likely innacurate anyway

[Command Prompt]

Whats a tactful thing to say after she rips your heart out?

[Slinky Ferret]

and being friends with a girl befor you get together, usually leads too 'but I dont want to ruin our friendship' type of thing.

All of my boyfriends were friends before we started "going out". However I tend to pull the "don't want to ruin our friendship" card when I really don't want to go out with them but don't want to hurt their feelings. I think there are three types of male friends:

1. Ones you are not attracted to at all but enjoy their company

2. Ones that you are attracted to and have probably snogged after a few drinks too many

3. Ones that you end up falling for or sleeping with

The problem is when you want them to be a 3 and they are happy remaining a 2.

[Lenor]

Im the type of girl that if i like someone Ill go for it. Most guys are too shy to ask a girl out because their afraid of getting shot down. So I step in, If I get shot down, then It's their own loss.

[Helm]

No its not. That statement is the creation of a demographic of society who feel left out of recreational mating and are trying to justify their contempt for people who claim to have love in a way such as it would disguise their otherwise oblivious envy.

Easy answer, but not correct. I've never felt left out of the loop as far as 'recreational mating' goes .I don't smell overly bad, I have no green teeth and I can string together a coherent sentence and that's even considered overequipped for some girls that are around, but that doesn't stop me from expressing a view much alike that which sprung your rebuttal. It's much more complicated than that.

[CaptainBubba]

I felt like being different for once instead of just doing the normal "define love" response.

Yeah.

[Helm]

I like you, ninja boy.

[CaptainBubba]

The sentiment is mutual Red Robot. :bow

[kellychaos]

I agree with Doopa. Most people, myself included, are too egocentric to think of it from the woman's perspective and tying yourself into knots with the attitude that you're the only one that's ever asked her out is not only unconstructive, it's self-defeating. Once you get past the anxiety, you'll find it to be a relief for both of you that it's out of the way.

[Lenor]

But of course, there's also the lame ass guys who think there hot shit because they have six pack ab's, And wont date a girl unless she's been on the cover of some magazine. Doenst matter if their the ugliest thing alive, they still think they got it going on because they ingested some steroids.