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Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 06:56 PM
Because i have this friend, she loves me as a friend even though we have been friends for less than 4 months. She talks to me frequently and about personal things. I slowly have fallen in love with her. The only downside is that one night when we were having a conversation, things began to start to look up, she began telling me how she needed someone to love and how she needs someone who is her friend first and her boy friend second, any how she said somthing like "I hope i don't sound stupid for asking this" and i started to get all hopeful untill she followed it with "You know i like Scott (another friend of ours) right?" Needless to say i was devastated, and the next day when i was talking to her she commented on how i seem depressed, she pushed and pushed but i wouldn't tell her why i was sad, but i think she suspects that it has something to do with her. Now what the fuck should i do?

noob3
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:03 PM
confess your love to her promise her you will be everything she wants tell her fuck scott tell her you are so much cooler take her to a movie hold her hand dont lie to her dont lie to her or she will fuck other boys

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:07 PM
I've done all of that except confess my love :(

noob3
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:36 PM
get her outside sit cross legged together on the ground offer her a cigarrette smoke a cigarette too whisper it into her ear she will kiss you then and you will both have cigarette breath you'll laugh about this after you're married

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:42 PM
Noob is cool.

FartinMowler
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:51 PM
Noob doesn't know how to use a comma.

noob3
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:51 PM
yeah seriously fartin : (

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:52 PM
Back to my pathetic love life please >:

CaptainBubba
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:59 PM
Does she seem at all attracted to you? Has she given any indication of an attraction to you?

And don't fall for the whole pushing you thing. She really has no idea why you're so sad.

Supafly345
Dec 23rd, 2003, 08:46 PM
If you think for a seconed that she isn't interested in you, chances are that you're right.
It is really painful, but you will be fine with it in a few days as long as you don't think about it too much.

Having never been in love I cannot properly map the best course when pertaining to your personal well-being. But ask your self, were you really in-love? Probably not.
Make sure you communicate with both her and the subject friend over the next week while trying to realise that it is Ok.

Of course, if you are really sure that you cannot live with this... go ahead and put fourth efforts to sabatoge any chances beween the two. "All's fair" after all.

Ghost of Fraiser
Dec 23rd, 2003, 08:53 PM
Having never been in love I....

Right there, your done.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 09:59 PM
Yeah, the hardest part is though she likes me as a friend, am i pretty sure she has no intrest in me otherwise. I need to come to terms with this and move on, but it is harder than i thought it could be, i am going to just accept that i am her friend and cannot be anything more than that. I can be content being her friend.

Geggy
Dec 23rd, 2003, 10:56 PM
the last thing you should do is to stay friends with her. you will only fall in love with her even more, it will keep on biting you in the ass. take the risk and tell her your true feelings ...or if it would make it any easier on you, flirt with her a little and make couple of moves. it's all about being creative. if it falls through then you're better off without her. at least you know and you'll have a peace of mind knowing that you gave it a try without regrets. dont cry in front of her though, take it like a man, and walk away...then cry. there are plenty of girls out there who are better for you even though it sucks having to start over again.

Brandon
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:01 PM
You're finished. It's over. You'll never be more than a friend.

Your mistake was becoming a confidant in the first place.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:20 PM
Your mistake was becoming a confidant in the first place.

No shit?

Brandon
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:22 PM
Your mistake was becoming a confidant in the first place.

No shit?
YES SHIT

AChimp
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:28 PM
Don't listen to Geggy. I hear that crying in front of girls ALWAYS works.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:35 PM
Geggy, if i can't have this girl romanticly, i want to have her friendship. It is very important to me.

Brandon
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:37 PM
Geggy, if i can't have this girl romanticly, i want to have her friendship. It is very important to me.
Then ditch the romantic hopes. You're not going to have both.

AChimp
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:39 PM
You are in the situation I was in all summer. Except I accused her of using me to get good grades.

Don't do that, BTW. And don't write her a long letter, either. Of course, you won't be able to talk to her about all of this because girls are incapable of thinking rationally. >:

Anonymous
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:43 PM
And they're stupid, too.

Rongi
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:44 PM
You only say that because you're a metrosexual


You train fucker >:

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:44 PM
I won't write a letter, last time i did that the girl moved to Spain :(.

Rongi
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:47 PM
And by moved to Spain you mean 'avoided you at all costs' :(

I doubt Spain is even a country :(

Big McLargehuge
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:48 PM
Avoided me all the way across the Atlantic :(

AChimp
Dec 23rd, 2003, 11:48 PM
My girl moved to Spain, too, then. :(

Helm
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:14 AM
You know, when you meet a new person, if you don't immediately express attraction and if they do not do the same, it's a pretty safe bet that it's not going to work out. When I say express attraction, I don't mean reaching for her boobs, I mean like looking the other person in the eyes, smiling, (seemingly purposeless) touching, attempts at being around the other person as much as possible, that sort of thing. If this isn't happening from both sides in the first 5 minutes of when you meet a person, then she/he's not attracted to you. And even if you finally get him/her into bed, he/she's not going to want you as much as you want them and that hurts like a bitch and it always works out pretty much like shit. So umm... if you have a secret crush, unless it's a very special circumstance, the best advice I have for you is to quit while you're not even in the fucking race.

'Slowly' falling in love is absurd.

Ghost of Fraiser
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:19 AM
Maybe GIRLS aren't your main problem.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:20 AM
I fell in love with her, not what she looks like (don't get me wrong she is very pretty).

Edit: that was for Helm, and perfecto are you calling me gay?

Brandon
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:22 AM
I fell in love with her, not what she looks like (don't get me wrong she is very pretty).
Well, attraction isn't just based on looks.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:23 AM
If you can realize what kind of person sombody is in the first five minutes, then you are gifted.

Brandon
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:26 AM
If you can realize what kind of person sombody is in the first five minutes, then you are gifted.
That's not the same thing as attraction.

You can be attracted to someone in the first five minutes (and that's crucial) based on a combination of looks and the way a person carries him/herself.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:33 AM
Attraction is not nessicary for love.


Edit: upon reading that i realized it was stupid, what i meant was initial attraction is not neccesary for love.

Brandon
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:41 AM
Attraction is not nessicary for love.


Edit: upon reading that i realized it was stupid, what i meant was initial attraction is not neccesary for love.
Do you honestly believe that?

EDIT: I've never seen ANY situation in real life that's proven the old "gradually blossoming love" notion right.

2nd EDIT: Oh, and when I say "love," I mean in the romantic/sexual sense, just so we're on the same page.

Helm
Dec 24th, 2003, 12:56 AM
I agree with ArtificialBrandon and I'm listening to Kyuss! ROCK! Does that lyric really go "you've been burned by my lighter, and my lighter is hell" or am i just listening things? If it does, then Kyuss rule even more.

As to what we're discussing. Yes, your body chemistry and your inherent psychological makeout do indeed compute and process whether a person should be persued for mating in far less than five minutes of interaction. As long as you're going for this relationship thing, then it's impossible to disregard the fact that harwired instinctual processes are making 95% of the choice for you. But besides the issue how free will comes into play in this whole situation, you need to demistify the actual process of 'falling in love'. The romantic model that is constanly pressured on you via various means is mostly a hollow shell and inside it lies pure atavism; sex means far less in psychological terms than it means in gratification of instinctual directive. Your instinct wanted to fuck that girl the first time you ever saw her, regardless of how long it took you to catch up with it. Blah blahblah

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 01:07 AM
Yes, i wanted to sex her up right out of the gates, i think that she would make a great vessle for my seed but that wouldn't be enough for a relationship. It took me a while to realize that i could live with this person, hell i like talking to her. My eyes aren't always wandering to her boobs. When i think about her, i dont think about sex i think about talking. Maybe what i feel is just a strong friendship.

Helm
Dec 24th, 2003, 01:18 AM
Did your mother neglect you as a child or sumthin? (you don't have to kill Freud, I seem to be able to do that just fine) Haha crude humour can't support naivety sorry lol what we were talking about hrm: As a person that has been in your position and largely still is, the whole concept of 'relationship' is learnt behaviour, based on an artificial social model that's constantly being reinforced through various means. There's reason for it to exist, but you have to be critical of this reason. Don't just adopt it just because it's been consistently force-fed to you since the first day you opened your eyes to this happy world of ours. The need of a man or woman to keep a constant romantic relationship with another person is largely due to his inability to cope with that fact that we are, ultimately alone. We theorize that just because other people have hands and feets and heads and testicles (or occasionally testicle) that they experience and interpret emotion, reality in the same way as us but as this is attempted to be communicated, it fails in many ways. Construsion, mistrusion, INTRUSION MY ROD IS ATHRUST IN MOIST OPENINGS There is no relationship, really. You're having a relationship with what you think that person is, and she in turn is having a relationship with that she thinks you are. Double proxies, you'll burn your firewall TUGFEY(FHDGYHFVgyfv

so don't credit relationships too much. They can work, agreed, and there's gratification there for you, but the thing is, not everything that works is 'good' (here's a naive concept for you) so be critical of the practises that you've adopted, that's all that I'm saying. You're doing everything your instinct tells you now that cannot be not be not healthy! not!

You're alone.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 01:28 AM
The facts that you present are all valid, i agree that we are alone by the mere fact that we cannot connect with somebody other than through our language (which will only serve to simplify our thoughts) but despite all of this the fact remains that i feel like shit when she says goodbye and continue to feel bad untill i see or talk to her again. It sounds stupid and cheesy but it is true.

Anyway, this whole conversation is moot because she is only a friend (and friendship is something i would like to hear your opinions on).


Edit: i read your post more carefully and realized that by your line of reasoning everything i just said is a mockery of myself, i wont erase it, however.

Helm
Dec 24th, 2003, 01:41 AM
now I'm listening to Civil Defiance and it's so wrong to play pop and grind at the same time so you must understand how difficult it is for me to continue no not much so here we go

yes you feel things when she's here and you feel different things when she's not here and this is the catch only it's not catch 22 I don't even know what a catch 22 is you know? Us foreigners I WANNA BE A JUKEBOX HEEEEEEEEEROOOOOO pick up this american slang because of tv and the net and all that and constantly misuse it because we don't understand it oh um the falling raaaaaiiinn days of raaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyn GRAVES

ALL SHARE THIS PAIN

GRAVES THE ROAD IS LITTERED WITH GRAVES

Anyway you feel things and emotion is the tool of your instincts it puts you in line and when you do what it wants you to do it rewards you with some temporary high and when you do something it doesn't want you to do (like not fuck hah) it makes you miserable YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THAT RIGHT NOW I AM TYPING THIS AND MY FACE HAS NO EXPRESSION ON IT

I AM TAKEN WITH MOCK EMOTION shhh quiet don't tell anyone. I know the secret song now. They wouldn't tell me but SOMEHOW I FOUND OUT

I am not feeling well. And it's exactly the point.

So, if you direct your life according to emotion. To being happy. All of the time. I DO NOT AGREE WITH SUCH TALK AS THIS. FIRST, A JOKE:

What do you get when you cross as the mackup goes on and covers up the scar. Something I couldn't make out. DEATH TO THE CLOWN


DEATH TO THE CLOWN

I am not hard to follow if you're me.

...then can you claim to actually be free? Is there any choice in judging A while under A's influence? Do you have any control or does your dick have all any control reverse cymbal!!1111


Oh boy can he play guitar.


I feel horrible without her. but there is reason in doing this. Is there any reason in ejaculation. no. no nobonoiuhh BONO I FYCKING HATE BONO LOL DEATH TO THE CLOWN

DEAATH TO THE CLOWN!


haha I like your avatr by the way- so I save you from yourself only I do not because I'm confused as well and even worse - a horrible fate - I am a theoretic of my own beliefs because I am weak.

Big McLargehuge
Dec 24th, 2003, 02:02 AM
That was actually the easiest thing to understand you have writtend all night.

Helm
Dec 24th, 2003, 02:11 AM
No it's not smart to say so. I stop now.