[Perndog]

I agree with soundtest. My grandfather died when I was about 14; it didn't bother me or my father too much, but the rest of my family was pretty shaken up. I found that the only person my dad needed to pay attention to was my mom (because they're married..) and no one really looked to me except to ask if *I* was okay. Generally, if grieving people need emotional support, they will ask someone who's not in the same situation they are, and like soundtest said, they don't need much, just an ear and a shoulder.