Toadie I think you're right there but also the whole timing issue needs to be considered. If you don't want to be a rebound then and you think she is still at that stage then just be patient. I think everyone is in such a rush to get laid these days they seem to forget that the other person can actually mean more to them than that.
To be blunt:
1. If you two get drunk and you fuck her not only are you a bastard who took advantage but it could ruin your friendship.
2. Why do men have to get drunk to reveal their true feelings. If you like her then just cut the crap and tell her.
3. If you just want it to be FTF then tell her that too. She may slap you though.
I think I want to stay single, relationships are so much hassle.