[jin]

Personally, I hadn't even gone out on an official date

Thats the same as me, and its really changed my thinking.

In our relationship, the trivialities dont really matter, we dont know our anniversary date, how long weve been going out or a lot of the other stuff that can really cloud up a elationship with a lot of useless information.

It also reduces the "I HAVE to do this"or "I HAVE to do that" mentallities, so we are together and do what we want, just for the fun of it and because we want too.

So far this is the best relationship she or I have ever been in simply because its about having fun together rather than being forced to mould ourselves to stereotypes.

But back to Magnet -

Really, i have to agree with the others on this one, you are still in high school and really, everything is bullshit there.

Once you are free it will really change your perspectives.

Also, it is true she may seem shallow that she is just trying to earn acceptance but in high school nearly every girl and guy is trying to earn acceptance, or fit in to a clique, even if they say otherwise or seem act in a contrary manner, no one really truly wants to be on their own.

I was actually stuck in the same sort of problem that you are in for a really long time, and it wasnt until I realised that it was really just a fixation on the idea or a just... reluctance(?) to giving up the fantasy of being together (just in love with the dream rather than the person), that I "gave up" and it was after this freedom from the idealism and the aching that i found someone i really clicked with and cared about deeply.

All i can say is look at yourself and your feelings from a critical point of view and think if you really Love this girl, or is it something else?

Also after this, my friendship with the girl only got a lot better and easier because there wasnt the constant longing and having to keep up a facade to hold me back.

PS. Hes right - girls are ICKY.

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