[Chojin]

gw: no one gets strong or hueg by accident. oao got stupid quads because he ate a lot and did a ton of squats. btw starting strength will have you squatting every day, so it's probably a bad idea if you want to avoid big legs. it should be said that oao's problem is not that his quads were huge, but the rest of him was hilariously underdeveloped.

fit's sticky is very good. there is no such thing as 'muscle tone' or 'being toned'; the two variables you can control are muscle mass and fat mass. if you want visible abs, you will need a pretty low bodyfat% and lots of abdominal muscle. since your abs are a big part of your core, you might as well hit them with core-strengthening exercises. then again maybe not if you're allergic to barbells.

a very, very big part of following starting strength or any freeweight program is learning form. people in gyms also generally have no idea wtf, and this includes personal trainers, so getting form tips from gym rats is usually a bad idea. the starting strength package includes a DVD with excellent form videos, but you can also just torrent the entire thing from the pirate bay.

i guess the real question is what you're willing to do to get the results you want.