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| Nov 2nd, 2003 11:45 PM | ||
| Perndog |
The opposite of love is indifference. Make yourself indifferent. Don't try to dislike the girl or find flaws in her. Just stop caring. No one can tell you how, because it's a different thing for each of us. Take all that advice about finding someone else, occupying yourself with something, etc. and translate that into something that works for you. My method? I can just tell myself that she's not important, that there are or will be others, and that she doesn't *deserve* my attention. I don't have to make myself hate her specifically, I just drop her into that mental bucket with the faceless 90% of humanity I just generally dislike. |
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| Nov 2nd, 2003 10:18 PM | ||
| wreckreation | Typical story. She is afraid to jump ship till she is sure about her landing. Forget about her kevin. It won't work out positively for you unless the guy is a real jerk and then she will just be picking you 2nd and you don't want a girl like that. | |
| Nov 2nd, 2003 08:14 PM | ||
| KevinTheOmnivore |
I'm going through a problem similar to this, I guess. I moved from NY to Texas, so my girlfriend 0f 3-4 years and I basically broke up. So now she's dating some douche bag in an "indie rock" band, and she has just basically become sort of indifferent, at times cold to me. This really hurts me, because she is my best friend, she's the closest person to me in the world, compounded by the fact that I'm in a new place and alone. So, I basically just figured it was over, life sucks, and it was time to move on. But she strings me along, she tells me she loves me and that she wants to be with me "down the road," or "in the future," but she can't clearly define when or where that is. So in the meantime, she wants us to be "friends," while she gets to have her cake and eat it to. I on the other hand, am a miserable mess, and I just wait for this "down the road" to arrive. I told her to stop calling me, that I need to break away to get over her, but she just called me more, and for a couple of days anyway was really sweet and loving. Now she's back to indifferent and cold, and I feel like I need to distance myself, get over her, but I can't. She said she'd keep calling me. 
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| Nov 1st, 2003 05:59 PM | ||
| Bod |
the obvious answer is get drunk and if you stay drunk long enough, by the time you sober up you've forgotton. a healthier answer is get together with a good frien. write down everything that is crap about this person and tell your mate. then everytime you whine about this person, your mate will refer to the list until you feel better |
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| Nov 1st, 2003 04:44 PM | ||
| James |
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 Blah blah Ladder Theory. I know all about that, and have it bookmarked, but it certainly doesn't address the stopping of feelings from the male's situation. It just says "If a guy finds you attractive, you can't be friends." But I figure there's got to be a way to make yourself stop finding someone attractive/liking them, that doesn't consist of never talking to them or seeing them again. Especially since I know I'm always going to see this particular person around often. |
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| Nov 1st, 2003 03:49 PM | ||
| O71394658 |
Put it in favorites.  The Ladder Theory. |
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| Nov 1st, 2003 12:25 PM | ||
| soundtest |
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| Nov 1st, 2003 02:59 AM | ||
| noob3 | you cant get over an internet girl? fag | |
| Oct 31st, 2003 09:47 PM | ||
| James |
Yeah, because it's such an option for me to go date. If I had other girls I could be with, this would never be a problem. Don't focus on the fact that this particular time, it's an internet girl. I'm just talking in general, about liking a girl who doesn't like you back, but not wanting to lose the friendship when trying to stop liking her. |
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| Oct 31st, 2003 08:30 PM | ||
| ginmortal |
You just won't be able to get over her, unless you actually try, it might make you feel like a jerk, but you have to meet other girls and go out with them, even if it hurts. Im now happily married, but lately I've been thinking a lot about my first ex, she just got divorced, and actually made a comment of "why didn't we get married?", sure, now that I can't, she says it, damn whore, filthy bitch, I should get my gun and kill her, burn her house and piss on the ashes... Oh, by the way, yeah, I have nice feelings towards her, but Im in no rush to divorce my wife to be with her, sure, she's beautiful, smart, makes a ton of money and has no kids, but hey, what the hell, what makes me think that this time it'll work?? We're the same people, with the same goals from 10 years ago, if it happened, there's no real reason for it to work out. In the end you have to do whatever you really like, meet someone in the process and live happily ever after, it sure is a pain in the ass, but it works out. And you should enjoy being depressed, it won't happen often. |
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| Oct 31st, 2003 11:51 AM | ||
| AChimp | You know, that works too. :/ | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 10:03 PM | ||
| soundtest |
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"That which does not kill us makes us stranger" :trevorgoodchild 
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| Oct 30th, 2003 09:56 PM | ||
| AChimp |
Bubba made me  .But seriously, the best thing you can do is just try to learn from the experience. For all the shit that I went through in the summer, I don't think that I'd trade it in for anything, because, believe it or not, I learned a lot about myself and what not to do. What does not kill you makes you stronger! :conan |
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| Oct 30th, 2003 08:58 PM | ||
| Cosmo Electrolux | James...if you find out, please let me know. | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 07:31 PM | ||
| Cap'n Crunch | EAT HER | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 07:23 PM | ||
| Helm | What's the big deal? You just hop over the body and make for the nearest exit, careful not to get any blood on your shoes. | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 04:59 PM | ||
| CaptainBubba |
Imagine her getting fucked by her depressingly disgusting boyfriend. Have yourself a nice chuckle imagining him dismount and grunt while she goes to the bathroom to finger herself and cry. It helps even more if hes Jewish and shes not and hes just fucking her for kicks. I'm actually not joking about this. I've gotten over two girls I was for years obssessed with by using this mental scenario. |
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| Oct 30th, 2003 04:19 PM | ||
| Jixby Phillips |
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| Oct 30th, 2003 04:10 PM | ||
| kellychaos |
Turn off the monitor. Out of sight ... out of mind.
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| Oct 30th, 2003 04:06 PM | ||
| Protoclown | So is this like a real live girl or someone you just know over the intenet and have never met in real life? | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 03:40 PM | ||
| wreckreation | I didn't mean like taste in music as a fault. I meant like not wiping your ass as a fault. | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 03:05 PM | ||
| James |
OK, the real world stuff is all good and fine, and I'm willing to admit that my outdoors time is limited, but I disagree that "real world" stuff makes you forget about things. As for occupying my time in other ways, I've tried that. I've tried keeping my mind off the person, but things always bring me back to her, or I see/talk to her. And her first name is a noun/adjective, and I never noticed how often I see it used until I realized I really liked her. I've tried to find faults, and there are plenty of them. But when you care about someone, it's hard to hold things against them. If you can dismiss a close friend who you also have feelings for just because you don't have the same taste in music, then you're worse off than me. |
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| Oct 30th, 2003 03:03 PM | ||
| Cosmo Electrolux | Kill them...nothing gets rid of annoying feelings like a cold, dead corpse....or lots of booze.....yeah, booze will do it too...and hookers....oh, and heroin. Start shooting up and you're only worry will be whose Bobo you'll have to honk to get that next hit O' smack | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 02:49 PM | ||
| wreckreation | Just be picky. It's a sure fire way to get over someone while still hanging out with them. UNLESS YOU ARE A CO-DEPENDENT JERK. The person might see your personality change and not like you anymore but that'd only happen beause you would be a doe eyed dolt anymore. So find all the problems with someone and think about them instead. | |
| Oct 30th, 2003 01:15 PM | ||
| Protoclown |
LIKE YOU'RE EVER GOING TO NEED ANY OF THIS ADVICE
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