you're always allowed to be for real, regardless of whether the other person does or not. but i wouldn't suggest offending the vicar (which always makes me think of miss marple stories :P) if it would in turn piss off your parents. plus, if he's just lost his wife, he's probably in a bad state already. you wouldn't want to push him over the edge or anything.
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and sometimes being nice to other people, even if you don't want to, can make you feel better, too. when i get really depressed, it's usually because i'm stuck inside myself, which translates to selfishness in its logical end. and now ends this installment of "ask pseudo dr. sadie."
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