wtf do you do

[soundtest]

i don't even know why i'm bothering to post this because i'm sure it'll get like 3 replies while the next piece of shit left behind by ultraperfectsportsx will hit 6 pages, but fuck it. just recently i've realized how disgustingly addicted to cigarettes i've become. i'm also drinking and smoking a lot more pot than i'd like to be, and i don't know why... now it's getting to the point where i can't be comfortable around my closest friends unless i'm smoking something or drinking something, and it seems they are the same way. otherwise it's just boring and awkward, and i can't wait to get away (or get the aforementioned crutches). is this a casualty of getting older? i honestly just don't know what the fuck else there is to do. and i know 'get new friends' seems like the obvious answer, but it's not them, it's me. so if there are any straight edge people, please offer some non-fucking lame advice... wtf do you do? watch tv? eat junk and get fat? talk about the weather? then what?

[Sethomas]

You need Jesus, man.

[ProfessorCool]

Find something you like to do together besides getting high?

Speaking of jesus, if he stepped on a tac would he say "Me Christ!" :badumboosh

[ArrowX]

Ok probably for my most indepth post ever.

Soundtest: If you have friends that are constantly high. Don't get high just looks at how pathetic they are when your not high then that should help with the weed part. Go look at drunks and throw shit at them then think if that what you want for yourself. I can't help you with the ciggaret part cuz those greasy yellow toothed fucks are just to repulsive for even me to hang out with.

[jin]

Wow- insightful. >:

I cant say anything because i feel the same way a lot of the time, its just easier to socialise with a bottle or glass of something. :o

For myself, time seems wasted when im around other people- unless there is some sort of point to gathering or meeting. It seems that in most cases, this artificial need causes me to have to create something to do or a reason - usually, drinking or smoking or something equally pointless and detrimental seems to justify it. :0

Or perhaps just because i find most people boring and i need to do something that just gives me something to do. :<

Or at least, that is my justification to feeling unease around people i should be most at-ease with. ;<

[soundtest]

for some reason i knew if anybody understood what my babbling was about, it'd be jin.

i LIKE drinking and smoking. i'm not worried about addiction because (besides cigarettes), i'm not stupid enough to get addicted to anything else. what i'm worried about is this need to distract myself... distract ourselves. the need to cover up the awkwardness... it's one thing if it's around strangers, but your closest friends? seems kinda pathetic

[Mr. Vagiclean]

we need more honest outwardly love

[Krythor]

Sports?

[Geggy]

i've been there, with the awkwardness and the boredom that drove me to pot smoking and drinking...


what you need is a girlfreind. o.o

[da blob]

welcome to the world - without getting high most people are just a bore to stay around.

[MrAdventure]

okay soundtest i am just drawing conclusions from my general experience with folks that hang out all drugged up

i am curious as to whether or not you actually trust these fellows, in general i mean.

are these people that you have bonded with on the basis of the substances or are the things you had in common no longer viable/actual?

maybe if there is a war you will all fight together in the same platoon and become the band of brothers we all want to hear about

or perhaps you will be a most excellent withered old man someday on the internet wondering about this same question while blaming yourself for what is a two way street that is friendship

[AChimp]

I don't think you're doing enough drugs. The haze is beginning to wear off, and everyone is starting to notices that everyone else in the group is a total loser. Enter feelings of inadequacy and a liberal dash of "what am I doing here?" and you have the makings of a gathering where everyone sits around, smokes up, drinks a bit, and stares warily at the person across from them.

[sports]

Soundtest, your answer is simple. Play some video games, watch tv, take a nap...

[soundtest]

Geggy has a point... and that's worked before but it's not really a resolution. It's another distraction and with it comes other issues.

Originally Posted by MrAdventure

i am curious as to whether or not you actually trust these fellows, in general i mean.

are these people that you have bonded with on the basis of the substances or are the things you had in common no longer viable/actual?

sure i trust these fellows. why not? as for your second question, exactly. we kinda bonded on the basis of music and issues we now have differing opinons on or are less interested in. the substances just helped solidify

Originally Posted by AChimp

The haze is beginning to wear off, and everyone is starting to notices that everyone else in the group is a total loser.

yea maybe you can come hang out with us to up the coolness factor

[AChimp]

Just sayin'.

[glowbelly]

sounds to me like your just growing out of your friends. perfectly normal, really.

the only advice that i can give you is to move on, find people who share your same interests and when you feel like hanging out and drinking or getting stoned call up your old buddies.

[Drew Katsikas]

My friends and I don't really do drugs together very often. Maybe twice a year. It's hard for us to get alchohol, but we also keep ourselves occupied. Basically, we either play ultimate frisbee or write songs and jam in our band. I find those to be entertaining enough occupations that you don't need to be inebriated to enjoy.

[Helm]

Soundtest I really like you and every time you say something about drug use I have to bite my tongue since I don't want to be judgemental because a) friends don't do that to each other unless they have to and b) for a person who does indulge into drugs, you seem to have it under control, somewhat. But since you're asking for oppinions especially from 'straight edge' people (which I'm not, obviously, but I neither drink, nor smoke or do drugs, or have sexual relationships, for that matter) I might as well tell you what I think about that.

If you hang out with people with whom you do not feel you are communicating (be it their fault or yours), no amount of drugs is going to help things. So what to do about this comes down to your principles and ambition, really. If you're wanting to have friends with which you're going to be able to have a decent conversation, and share worthwhile experiences obviously you need to find people with whom the common thread is those needs, and not any sort of substance. They might have been that kind of people once (and you also) but you have to ask yourself if what's keeping you people together really is drugs. Because if it is you're just all dependent and trying to cope with that fact by leaning (not holding on to, but leaning) on the other dependent people you know just so you can feel less lonely about the situation. As far as I know it only gets worse from where you are currently.

If I was you I'd stop drugs (no, seriously that's my advice ) and I'd try to spend more time with the things I'm interested in. Obviously without drugs you're going to be less happy. But you're going to be more self-aware, ultimately free and it comes down to what you'd rather be in your life between the two because I find that they are usually somewhat mutually exclusive.

ps I'm not just talking out of my ass I spent most of my teenage years getting wasted with my 'drinking friends' until I realised that it hurt me so much to constantly do things for which I was ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

I feel pretty much the same way whenever Emily invites me to go hang out with her college buddies, but the group she's with now is about 60% intelligent people, so it's not horrid anymore ;D

[Big McLargehuge]

I love my friends, i can do anything with them and feel comfortable. But as of late i have noticed that when i am high they seem so fake, everything they say sounds forced and over thought. If they are also high it helps a little but i still hate the feeling that my friends are fake.

[sadie]

since i've been straight, it's been way different hanging out with the same people i used to get wasted with. last night, for example, at a friend's birthday party, everyone was stoned and on various hallucinogenics. and there was this huge vibe of self-consciousness permeating the scene. it was annoying the way these people were continuously apologizing for their obnoxiousness or their inability to think coherently. "sorry i'm so fucked up," one friend said. i was like, was that NOT your plan? shut up and enjoy your buzz, at least.

[GADZOOKS]

Friends are like bean bags but i don't kill bean bags

[me]

You need to take up coke or herion or something, then you would forget all about your smoking addiction and maybe about your significant other

[mew barios]

mmf i know when i'm out with someone an there's nothin goin on for a lil while, i really start wishin for a drink to shut th brain up. :/ if i wasa better conversationalist then it prolly wouldn't be a problem but. ima nerd, an know only of nerd things :o

[Zomboid]

I'm only 17 but I've been feeling the same way lately and really want to change that. It's fucking sad when there are only a few people you can have fun with when you're not drinking or getting high.