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can't even understand the stimulus behind what attracts me to a certain kind of woman over another and I'm certainly not going to make the leap to get inside the mind of a homosexual much less try to stereotype them into one kind of personality profile.
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And isn't that convinient? The stimuli behind your attraction to women, whereas not extremely conclusively documented, are be safely said to be by 90% genetic and biochemical. They mostly have to do with 'base' instinct where selecting a mate for reproduction is about the mate being fit and healthy, young and strong. The supposedly mystified concept of 'beauty' can - somewhat unfairly, I give you that - be broken down to biological aspects where facial symmetry suggests the lack of disease and certain prominent characteristics suggest racial traits which are considered by our biological memory compatible with oneself. Instinct is one eugenic, racist motherfucker.
Furthermore, being socially compatible with the other person is a plus, due to a deep-rooted concept of loneliness, that any sentient being feels. I'm not talking about goth bwah I am alone the darkness swallows me loneliness. I am talking about the substantial loneliness that occurs when a being first notes the dualistic division between 'self' and 'everything else'. When you understand that your mind is a world in to itself. Being able to communicate superficially with another human being creates the promise of more substantial communication on a level which sadly is impossible through words. So if the person you're having some success at communicating with is ugly, then you think 'friend'. If she's beautiful, you think 'mate'. You'd think 'mate' if she were beautiful and unconscious too, but if she's up and talking and making sense and willing, all the better. That's basically it.
Obviously, there are a host of social neuroses and hang-ups that deal with the selection of mate and it's too much hassle (and honestly not completely in my ability) to document them now, like peer pressure, societal programming (hello, ladder theory) inappropriate handling by guardians etc
Homosexual animals are to some extent cultivated genetic errors, as they, as animals fail on the second most important task of any organism, the production of offspring. From a biological standpoint, there is no other way to look at homosexuality.
From a sociological and psychologic standpoint, things are more complicated. Homosexuals who have no genetic leaning towards finding same-sex partners attractive (and it is my oppinion that most people that claim to be gay nowdays are of this sort, rather than hopeless biological cases) have chosen a different 'club' to belong in than most, but still, they long for belonging all the same. And besides, if you have a sexually active prostate, homosexual intercourse one can get used to. Top that with how much easier it is to be in a same-sex relationship because you can communicate better, do not have to deal with sexual shyness, it's not difficult to be gay, today.
People choose a lot of labels to identify with and so substantiate their existence. One of the most prominent labels one adopts relatively early in life is that of his gender. His sex is a given, but one is of a gender by choice. So if nothing else, a man in need of an idenity might as well go gay. Just as other people join tennis clubs and others say 'I'll be a writer now'. Therein lies the most horrible social neurosis of the modern man: The need to be thoroughly labeled. Humans are animals that crave safety. And because men (as opposed to animals) have an abstract understanding of the whole world (whereas animals rely on limited genetic memory and their sensory perception of their surroundings), they can never be safe until they've catalogued and priorized as much of the world as possible. And people are easier to understand when you just have to deal with their labels. And it's ironic because most people claim their 'individuality' being paramount. But the way most modern people become 'individuals' is by collecting as many labels as possible. It's a way to 'flesh out' yourself. Architect. Student. Visionary. Gay. Life's a fucking race and the one with the biggest description wins.
So yeah, Fartin might not have the brain capacity to eloquently say what he's meaning, but there is a point that gay men and women make a point out of this particular label they've picked up. One can understand why. Being straight is hardly a label. It's presupposed, as fartin said. So when you want to aquire a new label, you broadcast it as much as possible.