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Is there any way to keep two very different people in good harmony?
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What sort of answer to you expect to that? No, I guess? There's always exceptions? Depends on how much you and her are willing to disregard about each other. When it comes down to it, if you're both brutally honest with each other though, and trace your differences down to their philosophical roots you'll end up in a very uncomfortable stalemate. I say this because I was once with a girl that was religious and as mature adults we decided once to talk about it. Because she claimed that she wanted to understand where I'm coming from, since I wasn't such a bad guy otherwise. To make a long story short, it came down to me finding blind faith absurd, and her finding the lack of, 'spiritually dissapointing' (in the sense that god permeates this whole world and whoever cannot see it must be blind in some essential way). Both very different opinions, not reconcilable, inexclusive and both thoroughly fabricated. They are value judgements that hold connotations that the relative people are stupid and/or misguided. Different roads to life so to speak, but everybody supposes they're the one walking on a pleasant downhill road and the other guy is walking barefoot on thorny gravel. This polarity will cast a strain on any relationship (especially if the people in the relationship aren't humourous about it) because you know that the person you're with essentially dissaproves of you and you do the same.
My thoretical solution is to have a relationship which (both people agree that) shouldn't require compatibility on any other level than the barest essentials.